Setting Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
Healthy
Relationships
Setting boundaries
Consent
What is a relationship
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The way in which two or more
people are connected.
Relationships
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Friendships
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Dating Relationships
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Family Members
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Teammates
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Classmates
Healthy Relationships Depend on…
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healthy communication,
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healthy boundaries,
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mutual respect,
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support for one another and
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check in with each other’s needs regularly while
also giving each other space and privacy.
Setting
Personal
Boundaries
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Have you ever had to ask
someone to not do
something?
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How did it make you feel to
have to say no?
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How did the other person or
people respond?
Teen Voices:
Friendships and
Boundaries
This Photo
by Unknown Author is licensed under
CC BY-SA
Look in the slide notes below
for topics to consider talking
about
Types of relationships
Boundaries and Boundary Setting Chart
Examples
of Boundaries
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“I want to hear about your day. I’ll be free to give you my full attention in
15 minutes.”
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“I’m not willing to argue with you.”
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“I will hang out with you, but I will not gossip about other people.”
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“I really enjoy holding your hand while walking together, but I don’t want
to kiss you when we say goodbye.”
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“I like you, but I don’t enjoy hugging people, please stop asking for hugs.”
Personal Boundaries
Physical Contact:
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I don’t like to hug people unless I know them well.
Keeping your personal space:
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I don’t like it when people I don’t know touch me or get really close to
me. Or I prefer that someone asks to borrow my things before taking
them.
Language:
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I prefer to not use cuss words when talking to people.
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I prefer not to talk about another person’s body.
Boundaries Crossed
Physical Contact:
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Someone I don’t know well came up to me and hugged me.
Keeping your personal
space:
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Someone touches your arm to get your attention or someone takes
part of your lunch without asking.
Language:
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Someone starts using cuss words to talk about another person while
you are hanging out with them.
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Someone makes negative comments about another person’s body.
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In a healthy relationship, all
partners are able to talk openly
and agree upon what kind of
activity they want to engage in.
Whether it’s holding hands,
kissing, touching, intercourse, or
anything else, it’s important for
all partners in a relationship to
feel comfortable with what’s
happening, every time it
happens.
https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-consent-works/
Consent is
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This Photo
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This Photo
by Unknown Author is licensed under
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A common misconception
about consent is that talking
about or getting consent will
make a moment awkward or
“ruin the mood.”
So, what does a respectful relationship look like?
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Talking openly and honestly about what you like and don’t like
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Listening to each other
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If in a sexual relationship, checking in with each other before, during and after
sexual activity
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Accepting that “No means no” and only “Yes means yes!”
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Respecting each other’s boundaries,
no matter what
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Not sharing or
threatening to share
personal stuff (information,
pictures,
videos
) with others
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Respecting each other’s right to privacy, online and off
What Makes a Relationship Healthy
Setting and Respecting Boundaries Activity
What to say
when your
boundaries
are being
crossed…
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“Please don’t do that”
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“This doesn’t work for me”
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“I’m drawing the line at ___”
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“Not at this time”
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“I’ve decided not to”
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“I don’t want to do that”
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“I’m not comfortable with this”
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“I can’t do that for you”
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“This is not acceptable”
How to Express your Boundaries
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Use Confident Body Language
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Be Respectful
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Plan Ahead
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You have the right to privacy, both online and off
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You have the right to feel safe and respected
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You have the right to decide who you want to date or
not date
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You have the right to say no at any time (to sex, to drugs
or alcohol, to a relationship), even if you’ve said yes
before
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You have the right to hang out with your friends and
family and do things you enjoy, without your partner
getting jealous or controlling
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You have the right to end a relationship that isn’t right
or healthy for you
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You have the right to live free from violence and abuse
(physical, verbal and emotional)
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You have the responsibility to respect other’s
boundaries
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We all have a responsibility to
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You have the responsibility to
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you do not, in some instances,
you could be breaking the law.
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Understanding the importance of setting boundaries in various relationships such as friendships, dating, family, and more. Learn how boundaries contribute to healthy communication, mutual respect, and supporting one another while respecting individual needs and privacy. Explore examples of personal boundaries and how to effectively communicate them to maintain healthy relationships.
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Healthy Relationships Setting boundaries Consent
What is a relationship The way in which two or more people are connected.
Friendships Dating Relationships Family Members Teammates Classmates Relationships
HealtHy RelationsHips DepenD on healthy communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, support for one another and check in with each other s needs regularly while also giving each other space and privacy.
Have you ever had to ask someone to not do something? How did it make you feel to have to say no? How did the other person or people respond? Setting Personal Boundaries
Text, logo Description automatically generated Teen Voices: Friendships and Boundaries This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA
Boundaries and Boundary Setting Chart What is a boundary? Types of relationships Examples of Personal Boundaries Examples of Boundaries Being Crossed Look in the slide notes below for topics to consider talking about
Examples of Boundaries I want to hear about your day. I ll be free to give you my full attention in 15 minutes. I m not willing to argue with you. I will hang out with you, but I will not gossip about other people. I really enjoy holding your hand while walking together, but I don t want to kiss you when we say goodbye. I like you, but I don t enjoy hugging people, please stop asking for hugs.
Personal Boundaries Physical Contact: I don t like to hug people unless I know them well. Keeping your personal space: I don t like it when people I don t know touch me or get really close to me. Or I prefer that someone asks to borrow my things before taking them. Language: I prefer to not use cuss words when talking to people. I prefer not to talk about another person s body.
Boundaries Crossed Physical Contact: Someone I don t know well came up to me and hugged me. Keeping your personal space: Someone touches your arm to get your attention or someone takes part of your lunch without asking. Language: Someone starts using cuss words to talk about another person while you are hanging out with them. Someone makes negative comments about another person s body.
Consent This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA
In a healthy relationship, all partners are able to talk openly and agree upon what kind of activity they want to engage in. Whether it s holding hands, kissing, touching, intercourse, or anything else, it s important for all partners in a relationship to feel comfortable with what s happening, every time it happens. How Consent Consent Works https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-consent-works/
Consent is Consent is an an enthusiastic enthusiastic YES YES This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA
A common misconception about consent is that talking about or getting consent will make a moment awkward or ruin the mood.
So, what does a respectful relationship look like? Talking openly and honestly about what you like and don t like Listening to each other If in a sexual relationship, checking in with each other before, during and after sexual activity Accepting that No means no and only Yes means yes! Respecting each other s boundaries, no matter what Not sharing or threatening to share personal stuff (information, pictures, videos) with others Respecting each other s right to privacy, online and off
What Makes a Relationship Healthy A close up of a sign Description automatically generated
Please dont do that This doesn t work for me I m drawing the line at ___ Not at this time What to say when your boundaries are being crossed I ve decided not to I don t want to do that I m not comfortable with this I can t do that for you This is not acceptable
How to Express your Boundaries Use Confident Body Language Be Respectful Plan Ahead
You have the right to privacy, both online and off You have the right to feel safe and respected You have the right to decide who you want to date or not date You have the right to say no at any time (to sex, to drugs or alcohol, to a relationship), even if you ve said yes before You have the right to hang out with your friends and family and do things you enjoy, without your partner getting jealous or controlling You have the right to end a relationship that isn t right or healthy for you You have the right to live free from violence and abuse (physical, verbal and emotional) You have the responsibility to respect other s boundaries Relationship Relationship Bill of Rights Bill of Rights
Respecting Boundaries Respecting Boundaries We all have a responsibility to respect boundaries. You have the responsibility to respect other s boundaries and if you do not, in some instances, you could be breaking the law.
If your If your boundaries boundaries have been have been crossed, crossed, please talk please talk to to Parent or Guardian Trusted Adult Faith Based Leader Teacher School Counselor School Nurse Health Clinic Health Care Provider
Resources- TAKE A PIC! The anti-violence project serves people who are LGBTQ hotline 212-714-1124 bilingual 24/7 GLBT national help center hotline 1800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743) or online chat at http://www.Volunteerlogin.Org/chat/ National sexual assault hotline supports LGBTQ people 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 24/7 or online counseling at https://ohl.Rainn.Org/online/ Awaken- 775-393-9183 Love is respect hotline: 1-866-331-99474 (24/7) or text loveis 22522 Step up! Nevada, stop violence! Http://www.Stepupstopviolence.Org/ SASS sexual assault support services Call (775) 221-7600 & ask to speak with an advocate Text: SASS to 839863 Domestic violence resource center: 775- 329-4150 Safe embrace: 775-322-3466 Crisis support services: 1-800-273-8255 Text care to 839863 Wingspan serves people who are LGBTQ hotline 520-624-0348 or 1-800-553-9387 bilingual 24/7
