Transactional Analysis in Human Relationships

 
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TRANSACTIONAL
ANALYSIS
 
Prof. Parul Rishi
Faculty of Human Resource Management,
 IIFM, Bhopal
Cell: 9009992144
 
 
10/1/2024
 
 
 
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
by 
Eric Berne :
 
Games People Play
 
SELF AWARENESS - A JOURNEY
 
 
 
 
 
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TRANSACTIONAL  ANALYSIS 
definition
 
TRANSACTIONAL  ANALYSIS (TA)
 
is a method of understanding communication
between people;
T.A. is a system of analysing and understanding
human relationships;
Transactional analysis was first developed by
an American psychiatrist, Eric Berne, drawing
on the theories of psychoanalyst Sigmund
Freud.
 
Transactional  Basis
 
Id – Pleasure Principle
Ego- Realistic Principle
Super-Ego- Ethical Principle
 
 
 
 
FREUD and BERNE
 
Freud’s mental states:  
ID, EGO, SUPEREGO
 
Berne’s ego states: 
CHILD, ADULT, PARENT
    
    natural child
 
  nurturing p.
    
    adapted child
 
  punishing p.
We can tell which ego state a person is in because
of the verbal and non-verbal behaviour
appropriate to each state.
 
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS IS PRACTICAL
AND USEFUL
 
IT GIVES A POSITIVE COMMUNICATION TOOL
 
PROVIDES BETTER INSIGHT INTO PERSONALITIES &
TRANSACTIONS
 
HELPS SOLVE PERSONAL & FAMILY PROBLEMS
 
NON-THREATENING APPROACH OF SELF EVALUATION
 
IT IS EASY TO LEARN
 
  
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
 
 
Structural  Analysis       -   How to analyse
    
    personalities
 
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS-   How people
    
    communicate
 
 
Stroke Analysis    -   How people
   
    recognise each other
 
 
Game Analysis
 
-   Ulterior Transactions
 
SCRIPT ANALYSIS
  
-   Life Positions
 
Ego States
Berne believed that when we interact with other people, our state of
mind affects what happens
He believed that there were three states of mind in all humans, no
matter how old they were, called 
ego states
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Adult
 
 
The basic Structure of Human Personality
 
Parent
 
Child
 
Taught Concept of Life
 
 
Thought Concept of Life
 
Felt Concept of life
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 people shift in & out of these states
 
The Three Ego States
 
Parent- “Do as I do”
Child- “What shall I do?”
Adult- “I will be frank with you”
 
 
 
Nurturing
Parent
 
Controlling
Parent
 
The two levels of the Parent ego state
 
 
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Rebellious
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The Three levels of the Child ego state
 
STROKES
 
We communicate with other people by giving
strokes
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A  
stroke
 is the basic unit of communication.
A stroke can be:
 
a.) positive
    
b.) negative
    
c.) conditional
    
d.)unconditional
Strokes are fundamental units of social action.
 
TRANSACTIONS
 
An exchange of strokes between two people is the
basic transaction  of human communication.
Transaction
 is the fundamental unit of social
intercourse.
Transactions can be:
    
a./ complementary
    
b./ crossed
    
c./ ulterior
 
 -   games
 
Characteristics of Ego States
 
Each 
ego state
 has particular verbal and non-
verbal characteristics, which can be
observed, if you are watching people.
Each 
ego state
 has a positive and negative
aspect
Look at the sentences below and match the
ego state
 to the sentence.
1.
It’s not my fault my drink
got spilt on your new
carpet
2.
I wonder what might have
caused that accident
3.
For goodness sake, clean
up that mess.
4.
Shall we clean up the
mess together with a wet
cloth?
5.
I refuse to get involved in
this incident.
 
Ego states
 
While the above ego states are present in all
of us simultaneously, only one of these will
be in command at any given moment in time.
Furthermore, the states do not depend on
the individual's age and each presents
positive and negative aspects.
 
Shift in Ego States
 
Parent- “Why don’t you prepare a time-plan
to handle your things properly?”
Child- “What is the point when one cannot
follow it?” – Becomes an Adult.
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Three Basic Concepts: Parent, Adult and Child
Transactions: Among P, A and C
P    < -- >   P
A   < -- >   A
C   < -- >   C
There are 9 possible transactions
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Structural analysis –
Natural child – spontaneous, impulsive,
feeling oriented, self-centered & pleasure
loving
Adaptive child – compliant, conforms to the
wishes & demands of parental figures
 
 
The 
Natural Child
 behaves as a child would do naturally, bringing
together creativity, intuition and curiosity. The 
Natural
Child
 enjoys life, expressed itself freely its feelings of happiness,
sadness, anger and fear depending on the situation, and
is 
spontaneous
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Natural Child
 is the state which 
loves
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The 
Adapted Child
 adapts its behaviour under the influence of its
parents, behaving in the way that its parents would like it to, for
example, with obedience or precociousness or perhaps also by
showing reserve, by being vindictive or rebellious.
Rebellious Child
NC
 
People find me to be warm hearted and exuberant.
 
Sometimes people find that I am inconsiderate.
 
I enjoy speed, and whenever I get the chance I drive rather
quickly.
I have a tendency of getting angry and of becoming
impatient more often than I like.
  
I enjoy eating and drinking and all too often I indulge
beyond a reasonable limit.
 
I am impatient with people who do not understand right
away.
 
I've got lots of friends and we regularly get together to have
a good laugh.
 
I know the right thing to say to make people feel at ease
and to create an atmosphere of good humour.
 
 
 
Adult ego state
 
1.
 
I have a habit of planning my work and my private life. This enables me to be
relaxed and calm.
2.
 
When my ideas are challenged during discussions, I readily question some of
my points of view.
3.
 
When I reflect on my life, I see that I have frequently changed my ideas and my
points of view on fundamental issues.
4.
 
Although I do not always agree with my boss on quite a number of issues, I
nonetheless get on very well with him.
5.
  
At work, moral values and feelings are more important than many people
believe.
6.
  
I take part in a number of activities outside of work and have the feeling that I
am not as bored as most people.
7.
I enjoy a happy life. I have built up and continue to build up a positive
relationship with my spouse and my children.
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Nurturing parent  - comforts, praises and helps
others
http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/take
Critical parent – finds faults, displays prejudices,
disapproves and prevents others from feeling
good about themselves
A major goal is to figure out which ego state a
person is using
http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/take
 
NP
 
1.
My children mostly call me by my first name. Or other young children if you don't have any yourself.
2.
 Mostly true  Mostly false
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I readily lend my belongings to others without worrying about whether or not they will be returned
to me.
4.
 Mostly true   Mostly false
5.
Family life is important to me and I like my spouse and my children.
6.
 Mostly true   Mostly false
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I chose to do difficult and non-gratifying work myself.
8.
 Mostly true  Mostly false
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When bringing up children, it is vital to base one's relationship with them on trust.
10.
 Mostly true   Mostly false
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The real battle of today is the fight against poverty.
12.
 Mostly true  Mostly false
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Whatever people say, children need us for a far longer period of time than we believe and one must
be ready for this.
14.
 Mostly true   Mostly false
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It is the done thing to sacrifice oneself for the happiness of one's children.
16.
 Mostly true    Mostly false
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Things have to be changed and a more just and egalitarian society must be fought for.
18.
 Mostly true   Mostly false
19.
I am more of the generous type. I like giving presents but I often spend too much.
20.
 Mostly true    Mostly false
 
 
CP
 
1.
I like work that is done well, that is precise and is finished
within the allocated time limit.
2.
 
Sincerity is fundamental to human relations. I am not
afraid of telling others what I think.
3.
 
When faced with difficulties I do my duty.
4.
 
It is sad that certain forms of politeness and propriety are
dying out.
5.
 
Before making a decision, every possible choice should be
looked into.
6.
 
The greatest joys in life are to be had through self effort
and by going beyond one's limits.
7.
 
Life takes on meaning when one fights for a righteous
cause.
 
 
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Transactional analysis -  Transactions between
people are seen as having 3 levels:
Complementary – both people are operating
from the same ego state
Crossed – the other person reacts from an
unexpected ego state
Ulterior – two ego states within the same
person but one disguises the other
Types of Transaction
Complementary
 Transactions
 
“You’re three hours late, I
want an explanation.”
 
DIRECTOR
 
EMPLOYEE
 
“I’m really sorry, I slept
through the alarm, it won’t
happen again, I promise.”
 
This is a
complementary
transaction because
the employee
accepts the child ego
state assigned to him
by the director and
responds in child ego
state.
Crossed Transaction
 
DIRECTOR
 
EMPLOYEE
 
“You’re three hours
late, I want an
explanation.”
 
“Oh, didn’t you get
held up by that
accident on the
road as well?”
 
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transaction
because although the
manager, 
parent
 ego state,
attempted to address the
employee as a 
child
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employee 
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state and responds in 
adult
ego state to the manager’s
ego state.
A 
crossed
 transaction is any
transaction where the
person being spoken to
refuses
 the ego state they
are assigned by the first
speaker.
 
Types of Transactions (Con..)
 
Crossed Transaction
: This causes most
difficulties in social situations.
“May be, you should improve your  way of
delivering lecture”.
“You always find fault with me whatever I
do”  Parent-Child interaction.
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Game analysis - ulteriorly motivated transactions
that appear complimentary on the surface
but end in bad feelings:
1
st
 Degree games – minor upset, played
socially end up with minor discomfort
2
nd
 Degree games – more intimate end up
with bad feelings
3
rd
 Degree games - usually involve physical
injury
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Very few games have a positive or neutral
outcome
In these games, people play one of three
positions:
Victim
Persecutor
Rescuer
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Script analysis – everyone develops a life script
by age 5 & these scripts determine how one
interacts with others based upon the
interpretation of external events
A negative life script occurs when the person
receives lots of injunctions by the parents
that used the word DON’T
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Common negative life scripts:
Never – one never gets to do what one wants
Until – one must wait until a certain time or
until something is done to be able to do
something they want to do
Always – one must continue to do what one
has always done
 
Transactional Analysis
 
After – a difficulty is expected after a certain
event
Open-ended – one does not know what to do
after a given time
Mini-scripts:  Hurry up!  Try harder!  Be
perfect!  Be strong!  Please someone!  These
drivers allow for temporary escape from life
scripts
 
Know your TA style???
 
A HURRY UP Style !
 
Type A Personality
People with hurry up styles like to do everything as quickly as they can.
 They are energized by having deadlines to meet, and they always seem
able to fit in extra tasks.
They tend to be quick to come up with solutions to problems.
 
In a mentoring relationship…
They want an instant relationship, without taking time to get to know
their mentoring partner.
They can’t see why there is a need to have so many stages in the
mentoring process – why can’t they go straight to the action stage?
A HURRY UP personality will work well under time pressure because
their energy will be high
For improvement a ‘Hurry Up’ needs to:
- think and plan ahead with regard to the REALITY of available time
- have short term goals with defined standards
BE PERFECT
 
Type A Personality
Be Perfect people are energised by doing things right.
They aim for perfection in everything, check carefully, produce accurate
work and set high standards.
Sometimes they will miss deadlines because they may have a weak sense of
priorities and insist everything is done perfectly, so they can come across as
overly critical.
 
In a mentoring relationship…
They make little allowance for human failings. They may get discouraged if
they fail to live up to their own high expectations and lose faith in a
mentoring partner who makes a mistake.
 A BE PERFECT personality works well in jobs where detail is important and
the set standards are important.
For improvement needs to:
- realise that less than their best may be what is needed at the early stages
- realise that their qualities of accuracy and organisation may have a poor
impact on those with different  mindset.
 
PLEASE PEOPLE-A Non Assertive
Class
 
Like to get on with everyone and energised by approval and harmony.
They make good team members because they involve others as a way of
making sure they are happy.
Use their intuition to pick up when someone has doubts; they notice the
little signs and the body language that others may ignore. On the other hand,
they may be reluctant to challenge anyone in case they lose that person’s
approval.
In a mentoring relationship…
They may worry too much about gaining the approval of their mentoring
partner.
They may attempt to read their partner’s mind, and then say what they think
the partner wants to hear.
When they talk, they may make everything sound like a question, so they can
quickly back down if their suggestions don’t meet with instant agreement.
Can hold a team together and  perform the 'maintenance' functions of
involving people, checking and summarising, and will be sympathetic,
empathetic, tolerant and flexible.
TRY HARD
 
Try Hard people are enthusiastic, get involved in lots of different activities, and
tend to volunteer for things.
They are energised by having something new to try.
Sometimes they turn small jobs into major projects because they are so
enthusiastic at following up every angle.
They may then become bored with the detailed work that follows, even to the
point of leaving work undone so they can move on to a new, exciting activity.
In a mentoring relationship…
Try Hards are likely to be very enthusiastic mentoring partners to begin with.
They will be keen to try out the various aspects of the mentoring process.
They may even introduce ideas and activities to the mentoring. However, their
enthusiasm may not translate into action.
 A TRY HARD personality is very good in start up situations, and where effort
and energy to complete are needed.
For improvement needs to:
- finish some things and  put some full stops into their sentences
- follow through when necessary
BE STRONG
 
People with Be Strong working styles pride themselves on their ability to
stay calm in any circumstances.
They are energised by the need to cope. They are good at dealing with
crises, can handle difficult people, and will work steadily through any
workload.
 However, their desire to have everything under control means they can
come across as aloof.
They are also reluctant to ask for help, even when they should, and their
lack of awareness of emotions may make them insensitive to the feelings
of others.
In a mentoring relationship…
May find it hard to accept any help from others. Even talking about
problems may be difficult, as Be Strongs are reluctant to admit to
weakness, even to themselves.
They are good in accommodating poor conditions or putting up with
things that many would find unreasonable
For improvement needs to:- 
learn to relax- admit to being weak in some
situations
 
Typical Games
 
Between  director and faculty:
“This  training is challenging, you cannot take
it , I believe”
Between A Teacher and a Student:
“This is a good topic, but you cannot handle
it.”
 
Transactional Analysis
 
Four basic life scripts:
I’m OK, you’re OK – ideal
I’m OK, you’re not OK – get away from me
I’m not OK, you’re OK – I’ll never get
anywhere
I’m not OK, you’re not OK – get rid of each
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UTILITY
 
Communication
Motivation
Leadership
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DEVELOPING IP Skills
 
Developing Assertiveness
Accepting Responsibility
Managing Conflicts
Avoiding
Accommodating
Competing/Forcing
Collaborating
Compromising
 
 
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Factors Hampering Interpersonal
Interactions
 
Poor Listening
Emotional Arousal
Lack of Time
Differences in objective
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Building Positive Relationship
 
Use of ‘I’
Focus on problem solving
Don’t Deceive
Empathy
Listen
Use of Praise
Be specific
Praise progress
Sincere
Don’t overdo
Timing
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Dealing with Criticism
 
Understand the Reason behind
Empathy
Don’t personalize criticism
Do not be Judgmental
Do not overload
 
THANK YOU FOR YOUR
KIND ATTENTION
 
drparulrishi@gmail.com
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Transactional Analysis (TA) is a method developed by Eric Berne to analyze communication between individuals. It helps in understanding human relationships by categorizing interactions into different ego states like ID, Ego, and Super-Ego. TA provides valuable insights into personalities, aids in resolving personal and family issues, and offers a non-threatening way for self-evaluation. It is a practical and useful tool that enhances positive communication skills. Structural analysis within TA involves script analysis, stroke analysis, and game analysis to delve deeper into how people communicate and recognize each other. Berne's focus on ego states emphasizes the importance of recognizing different states while interacting with others.

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  1. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS Prof. Parul Rishi Faculty of Human Resource Management, IIFM, Bhopal parul@iifm.ac.in Cell: 9009992144 10/1/2024 1

  2. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS by Eric Berne : Games People Play SELF AWARENESS - A JOURNEY disha

  3. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS definition TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS (TA) is a method of understanding communication between people; T.A. is a system of analysing and understanding human relationships; Transactional analysis was first developed by an American psychiatrist, Eric Berne, drawing on the theories of psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud.

  4. Transactional Basis Id Pleasure Principle Ego- Realistic Principle Super-Ego- Ethical Principle

  5. FREUD and BERNE Freud s mental states: ID, EGO, SUPEREGO Berne s ego states: CHILD, ADULT, PARENT natural child adapted child We can tell which ego state a person is in because of the verbal and non-verbal behaviour appropriate to each state. nurturing p. punishing p.

  6. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS IS PRACTICAL AND USEFUL IT GIVES A POSITIVE COMMUNICATION TOOL PROVIDES BETTER INSIGHT INTO PERSONALITIES & TRANSACTIONS HELPS SOLVE PERSONAL & FAMILY PROBLEMS NON-THREATENING APPROACH OF SELF EVALUATION IT IS EASY TO LEARN

  7. STRUCTURAL ANALYSIS TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS- SCRIPT ANALYSIS STROKE ANALYSIS GAME ANALYSIS

  8. TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS Structural Analysis - How to analyse personalities TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS- How people communicate Stroke Analysis - How people recognise each other Game Analysis - Ulterior Transactions SCRIPT ANALYSIS - Life Positions

  9. Ego States Berne believed that when we interact with other people, our state of mind affects what happens He believed that there were three states of mind in all humans, no matter how old they were, called ego states. ADULT PARENT CHILD

  10. The basic Structure of Human Personality Taught Concept of Life Parent Thought Concept of Life Adult Child Felt Concept of life

  11. Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis People have three ego states: parent, adult, child Parent: Parent: when a person thinks, feels & behaves in ways copied from his/her parents Child: Child: thinking, feeling, behaving as one did as a child Adult: Adult: thoughts, feelings, or behaviors that are a direct result of current happenings Key point: people shift in & out of these states 12

  12. The Three Ego States Parent- Do as I do Child- What shall I do? Adult- I will be frank with you

  13. The two levels of the Parent ego state Nurturing Parent Controlling Parent

  14. The Three levels of the Child ego state A D A P T I V E Rebellious Child Natural Child

  15. STROKES We communicate with other people by giving strokes. A stroke is the basic unit of communication. A stroke can be: a.) positive b.) negative c.) conditional d.)unconditional Strokes are fundamental units of social action.

  16. TRANSACTIONS An exchange of strokes between two people is the basic transaction of human communication. Transaction is the fundamental unit of social intercourse. Transactions can be: a./ complementary b./ crossed c./ ulterior - games

  17. Characteristics of Ego States Each ego state has particular verbal and non- verbal characteristics, which can be observed, if you are watching people. Each ego state has a positive and negative aspect

  18. Look at the sentences below and match the ego state to the sentence. 1. It s not my fault my drink got spilt on your new carpet 2. I wonder what might have caused that accident 3. For goodness sake, clean up that mess. 4. Shall we clean up the mess together with a wet cloth? 5. I refuse to get involved in this incident. CHILD ADULT PARENT

  19. Ego states While the above ego states are present in all of us simultaneously, only one of these will be in command at any given moment in time. Furthermore, the states do not depend on the individual's age and each presents positive and negative aspects.

  20. Shift in Ego States Parent- Why don t you prepare a time-plan to handle your things properly? Child- What is the point when one cannot follow it? Becomes an Adult.

  21. Transactional Analysis Three Basic Concepts: Parent, Adult and Child Transactions: Among P, A and C P < -- > P A < -- > A C < -- > C There are 9 possible transactions

  22. Transactional Analysis Structural analysis Natural child spontaneous, impulsive, feeling oriented, self-centered & pleasure loving Adaptive child compliant, conforms to the wishes & demands of parental figures

  23. The Natural Child behaves as a child would do naturally, bringing together creativity, intuition and curiosity. The Natural Child enjoys life, expressed itself freely its feelings of happiness, sadness, anger and fear depending on the situation, and is spontaneous. The Natural Child is the state which loves. The Adapted Child adapts its behaviour under the influence of its parents, behaving in the way that its parents would like it to, for example, with obedience or precociousness or perhaps also by showing reserve, by being vindictive or rebellious. Rebellious Child

  24. NC People find me to be warm hearted and exuberant. Sometimes people find that I am inconsiderate. I enjoy speed, and whenever I get the chance I drive rather quickly. I have a tendency of getting angry and of becoming impatient more often than I like. I enjoy eating and drinking and all too often I indulge beyond a reasonable limit. I am impatient with people who do not understand right away. I've got lots of friends and we regularly get together to have a good laugh. I know the right thing to say to make people feel at ease and to create an atmosphere of good humour.

  25. Adult ego state 1. I have a habit of planning my work and my private life. This enables me to be relaxed and calm. When my ideas are challenged during discussions, I readily question some of my points of view. When I reflect on my life, I see that I have frequently changed my ideas and my points of view on fundamental issues. Although I do not always agree with my boss on quite a number of issues, I nonetheless get on very well with him. At work, moral values and feelings are more important than many people believe. I take part in a number of activities outside of work and have the feeling that I am not as bored as most people. I enjoy a happy life. I have built up and continue to build up a positive relationship with my spouse and my children. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

  26. Transactional Analysis Nurturing parent - comforts, praises and helps others http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/take Critical parent finds faults, displays prejudices, disapproves and prevents others from feeling good about themselves A major goal is to figure out which ego state a person is using http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/take

  27. NP 1. 2. 3. My children mostly call me by my first name. Or other young children if you don't have any yourself. Mostly true Mostly false I readily lend my belongings to others without worrying about whether or not they will be returned to me. Mostly true Mostly false Family life is important to me and I like my spouse and my children. Mostly true Mostly false I chose to do difficult and non-gratifying work myself. Mostly true Mostly false When bringing up children, it is vital to base one's relationship with them on trust. Mostly true Mostly false The real battle of today is the fight against poverty. Mostly true Mostly false Whatever people say, children need us for a far longer period of time than we believe and one must be ready for this. Mostly true Mostly false It is the done thing to sacrifice oneself for the happiness of one's children. Mostly true Mostly false Things have to be changed and a more just and egalitarian society must be fought for. Mostly true Mostly false I am more of the generous type. I like giving presents but I often spend too much. Mostly true Mostly false 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20.

  28. CP 1. I like work that is done well, that is precise and is finished within the allocated time limit. Sincerity is fundamental to human relations. I am not afraid of telling others what I think. When faced with difficulties I do my duty. It is sad that certain forms of politeness and propriety are dying out. Before making a decision, every possible choice should be looked into. The greatest joys in life are to be had through self effort and by going beyond one's limits. Life takes on meaning when one fights for a righteous cause. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

  29. Transactional Analysis Transactional analysis - Transactions between people are seen as having 3 levels: Complementary both people are operating from the same ego state Crossed the other person reacts from an unexpected ego state Ulterior two ego states within the same person but one disguises the other

  30. Types of Transaction Complementary Transactions This is a complementary transaction because the employee accepts the child ego state assigned to him by the director and responds in child ego state. P P A A C C DIRECTOR EMPLOYEE You re three hours late, I want an explanation. I m really sorry, I slept through the alarm, it won t happen again, I promise.

  31. Crossed Transaction This is a crossed transaction because although the manager, parent ego state, attempted to address the employee as a child, the employee refuses this ego state and responds in adult ego state to the manager s ego state. P P A A C C A crossed transaction is any transaction where the person being spoken to refuses the ego state they are assigned by the first speaker. DIRECTOR EMPLOYEE You re three hours late, I want an explanation. Oh, didn t you get held up by that accident on the road as well?

  32. Types of Transactions (Con..) Crossed Transaction: This causes most difficulties in social situations. May be, you should improve your way of delivering lecture . You always find fault with me whatever I do Parent-Child interaction.

  33. Transactional Analysis Game analysis - ulteriorly motivated transactions that appear complimentary on the surface but end in bad feelings: 1st Degree games minor upset, played socially end up with minor discomfort 2nd Degree games more intimate end up with bad feelings 3rd Degree games - usually involve physical injury

  34. Transactional Analysis Very few games have a positive or neutral outcome In these games, people play one of three positions: Victim Persecutor Rescuer

  35. Transactional Analysis After a difficulty is expected after a certain event Open-ended one does not know what to do after a given time Mini-scripts: Hurry up! Try harder! Be perfect! Be strong! Please someone! These drivers allow for temporary escape from life scripts

  36. Know your TA style???

  37. A HURRY UP Style ! Type A Personality People with hurry up styles like to do everything as quickly as they can. They are energized by having deadlines to meet, and they always seem able to fit in extra tasks. They tend to be quick to come up with solutions to problems. In a mentoring relationship They want an instant relationship, without taking time to get to know their mentoring partner. They can t see why there is a need to have so many stages in the mentoring process why can t they go straight to the action stage? A HURRY UP personality will work well under time pressure because their energy will be high For improvement a Hurry Up needs to: - think and plan ahead with regard to the REALITY of available time - have short term goals with defined standards

  38. BE PERFECT Type A Personality Be Perfect people are energised by doing things right. They aim for perfection in everything, check carefully, produce accurate work and set high standards. Sometimes they will miss deadlines because they may have a weak sense of priorities and insist everything is done perfectly, so they can come across as overly critical. In a mentoring relationship They make little allowance for human failings. They may get discouraged if they fail to live up to their own high expectations and lose faith in a mentoring partner who makes a mistake. A BE PERFECT personality works well in jobs where detail is important and the set standards are important. For improvement needs to: - realise that less than their best may be what is needed at the early stages - realise that their qualities of accuracy and organisation may have a poor impact on those with different mindset.

  39. PLEASE PEOPLE-A Non Assertive Class Like to get on with everyone and energised by approval and harmony. They make good team members because they involve others as a way of making sure they are happy. Use their intuition to pick up when someone has doubts; they notice the little signs and the body language that others may ignore. On the other hand, they may be reluctant to challenge anyone in case they lose that person s approval. In a mentoring relationship They may worry too much about gaining the approval of their mentoring partner. They may attempt to read their partner s mind, and then say what they think the partner wants to hear. When they talk, they may make everything sound like a question, so they can quickly back down if their suggestions don t meet with instant agreement. Can hold a team together and perform the 'maintenance' functions of involving people, checking and summarising, and will be sympathetic, empathetic, tolerant and flexible.

  40. TRY HARD Try Hard people are enthusiastic, get involved in lots of different activities, and tend to volunteer for things. They are energised by having something new to try. Sometimes they turn small jobs into major projects because they are so enthusiastic at following up every angle. They may then become bored with the detailed work that follows, even to the point of leaving work undone so they can move on to a new, exciting activity. In a mentoring relationship Try Hards are likely to be very enthusiastic mentoring partners to begin with. They will be keen to try out the various aspects of the mentoring process. They may even introduce ideas and activities to the mentoring. However, their enthusiasm may not translate into action. A TRY HARD personality is very good in start up situations, and where effort and energy to complete are needed. For improvement needs to: - finish some things and put some full stops into their sentences - follow through when necessary

  41. BE STRONG People with Be Strong working styles pride themselves on their ability to stay calm in any circumstances. They are energised by the need to cope. They are good at dealing with crises, can handle difficult people, and will work steadily through any workload. However, their desire to have everything under control means they can come across as aloof. They are also reluctant to ask for help, even when they should, and their lack of awareness of emotions may make them insensitive to the feelings of others. In a mentoring relationship May find it hard to accept any help from others. Even talking about problems may be difficult, as Be Strongs are reluctant to admit to weakness, even to themselves. They are good in accommodating poor conditions or putting up with things that many would find unreasonable For improvement needs to:- learn to relax- admit to being weak in some situations

  42. Typical Games Between director and faculty: This training is challenging, you cannot take it , I believe Between A Teacher and a Student: This is a good topic, but you cannot handle it.

  43. Transactional Analysis Four basic life scripts: I m OK, you re OK ideal I m OK, you re not OK get away from me I m not OK, you re OK I ll never get anywhere I m not OK, you re not OK get rid of each other

  44. Life Positions Life Positions Attitude toward Oneself I m OK You re not OK I m OK You re OK Positive I m not OK You re not OK I m not OK You re OK Negative Negative Positive Attitude toward Others 47

  45. Management Conflict Styles Management Conflict Styles Passive behavior Assertive behavior I m not OK You re OK I m OK You re OK High concern for others needs Accommodating style Collaborating style Compromising style Aggressive behavior Avoiding style Forcing style Low concern for others needs High concern for own needs I m not OK You re not OK I m OK You re not OK 48

  46. UTILITY Communication Motivation Leadership 49

  47. DEVELOPING IP Skills Developing Assertiveness Accepting Responsibility Managing Conflicts Avoiding Accommodating Competing/Forcing Collaborating Compromising 50

  48. Factors Hampering Interpersonal Interactions Poor Listening Emotional Arousal Lack of Time Differences in objective 51

  49. Building Positive Relationship Use of I Focus on problem solving Don t Deceive Empathy Listen Use of Praise Be specific Praise progress Sincere Don t overdo Timing 52

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