Understanding and Addressing Bullying Scenarios

- Official - MVP SCENARIOS.

- Official - INSULTS .

- Official - INSULTS INSULTS - - A friend of yours frequently insults and A friend of yours frequently insults and makes fun of another boy you know. You've never makes fun of another boy you know. You've never seen your friend hit the other boy, but you wouldn't seen your friend hit the other boy, but you wouldn't be surprised if he did. be surprised if he did.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why is he doing this? I feel bad about what s doing this? I feel bad about what s happening. But at least it s not happening to happening. But at least it s not happening to me Why doesn t the other boy stand up for me Why doesn t the other boy stand up for himself? Is it my place to get involved? If himself? Is it my place to get involved? If I do will I be next? But I feel really I do will I be next? But I feel really uncomfortable when I see someone being uncomfortable when I see someone being treated like this What should I do? treated like this What should I do? Why is he

- Official - OPTIONS (INSULTS) OPTIONS (INSULTS) 1. 1. Do nothing. It s none of your business. Do nothing. It s none of your business. 2. Next time it happens distract your friend to stop the behaviour. 2. Next time it happens distract your friend to stop the behaviour. 3. Talk to the boy who is being insulted to offer support. 3. Talk to the boy who is being insulted to offer support. 4. Tell your friend you think he s out of order. 4. Tell your friend you think he s out of order. 5. Share with your friends what you ve seen and discuss what to do together. 5. Share with your friends what you ve seen and discuss what to do together. 6. Talk about what happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an 6. Talk about what happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. 7. Personal option. 7. Personal option.

- Official - ONLINE CHAT.

- Official - ONLINE CHAT ONLINE CHAT - - You are part of a large group chat You are part of a large group chat with friends from school. Someone in the group starts to with friends from school. Someone in the group starts to make fun of another friend. Their comments are really make fun of another friend. Their comments are really nasty. Some of the others are laughing and making nasty. Some of the others are laughing and making similar remarks. Your friend doesn t respond although similar remarks. Your friend doesn t respond although you can see that they have read the comments. you can see that they have read the comments.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why are they doing this? I feel bad about what is doing this? I feel bad about what is happening Why isn t anyone challenging it? happening Why isn t anyone challenging it? We re all meant to be friends ... And why didn t We re all meant to be friends ... And why didn t my friend respond? Is it my place to get my friend respond? Is it my place to get involved? If I say something will I be next? involved? If I say something will I be next? But I feel really uncomfortable when I see But I feel really uncomfortable when I see someone treated like this Is this any of my someone treated like this Is this any of my business? What should I do? business? What should I do? Why are they

- Official - OPTIONS (ONLINE CHAT) OPTIONS (ONLINE CHAT) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 2. Try to change the subject in the group chat. 2. Try to change the subject in the group chat. 3. Remove yourself from the group and contact my friend to let them know I don t agree with what 3. Remove yourself from the group and contact my friend to let them know I don t agree with what was being said. was being said. 4. Post on the chat that you think what they re saying and doing is wrong. 4. Post on the chat that you think what they re saying and doing is wrong. 5. Outwith the group chat, speak to some of your friends who didn t comment, and ask whether they 5. Outwith the group chat, speak to some of your friends who didn t comment, and ask whether they think what s happening is fair. Discuss together what you should do. think what s happening is fair. Discuss together what you should do. 6. Talk about what has happened with a parent/carer, a teacher/adult you trust, or an MVP mentor, 6. Talk about what has happened with a parent/carer, a teacher/adult you trust, or an MVP mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. and ask their advice on what to do. 7. Personal Option. 7. Personal Option.

- Official - LEFT OUT.

- Official - LEFT OUT LEFT OUT - Your friend creates a group chat and Your friend creates a group chat and adds you and all but one of your mutual friends. The adds you and all but one of your mutual friends. The group are planning to go to the cinema at the group are planning to go to the cinema at the weekend. Someone suggests that no one should tell weekend. Someone suggests that no one should tell the friend who is not included in the chat as they are the friend who is not included in the chat as they are annoying . annoying .

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why did they leave our friend out of the group chat? ... Aren t leave our friend out of the group chat? ... Aren t we all supposed to be friends? But is it my we all supposed to be friends? But is it my problem? I m not sure I should get involved problem? I m not sure I should get involved I didn t create the group, so I didn t exclude I didn t create the group, so I didn t exclude anyone If I say something will I be next? I anyone If I say something will I be next? I don t want to be left out But how would my don t want to be left out But how would my friend feel to know people are talking behind friend feel to know people are talking behind their back? Is it any of my business? What their back? Is it any of my business? What should I do? should I do? Why did they

- Official - OPTIONS (LEFT OUT) OPTIONS (LEFT OUT) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 1. 1. Change the subject in the group chat. Change the subject in the group chat. 1. 1. Contact your friend and let them know what is going on. Contact your friend and let them know what is going on. 1. 1. Post on the group that you don t think it s fair to talk about someone behind their Post on the group that you don t think it s fair to talk about someone behind their back and exclude them from plans. back and exclude them from plans. 1. 1. Outwith the group chat, speak to some of your friends and ask them whether they Outwith the group chat, speak to some of your friends and ask them whether they think what is happening is fair. Decide together what to do. think what is happening is fair. Decide together what to do. 6. Talk about what has happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or 6. Talk about what has happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. 7. Personal Option 7. Personal Option

- Official - PHOTOS.

- Official - PHOTOS PHOTOS - - You re with a group of friends. A boy in You re with a group of friends. A boy in the group starts showing pictures of his ex the group starts showing pictures of his ex- -girlfriend on his mobile phone. In the photos she s naked or on his mobile phone. In the photos she s naked or wearing very little clothing. Some other boys in the wearing very little clothing. Some other boys in the group ask him to forward the photos. He then sends group ask him to forward the photos. He then sends them to everyone including you. them to everyone including you. girlfriend

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - I can t believe he has those photos ... Why hasn t he believe he has those photos ... Why hasn t he deleted them? ... I m not sure how I feel about deleted them? ... I m not sure how I feel about this I doubt she knows he s showing these this I doubt she knows he s showing these around. How would she feel if she knew? ... But around. How would she feel if she knew? ... But she did send them Can we get into trouble for she did send them Can we get into trouble for this? ... If I say something, will they just laugh at this? ... If I say something, will they just laugh at me? No one else seems to have a problem with me? No one else seems to have a problem with it What should I do? it What should I do? I can t

OPTIONS (PHOTOS) OPTIONS (PHOTOS) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. - Official - 2. Delete the photo, leave, and hope they get the hint that you don t approve of what s going 2. Delete the photo, leave, and hope they get the hint that you don t approve of what s going on. on. 3. Let his ex 3. Let his ex- -girlfriend know these photos are going around. girlfriend know these photos are going around. 4. Ask your friend to delete the photos and tell him he shouldn t be sharing private pictures of 4. Ask your friend to delete the photos and tell him he shouldn t be sharing private pictures of others. others. 5. Speak to the others in the group and discuss what to do together. 5. Speak to the others in the group and discuss what to do together. 6. Talk about your concerns with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP 6. Talk about your concerns with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. 7. Personal Option. 7. Personal Option.

- Official - RUMOURS.

- Official - RUMOURS RUMOURS - - A girl you know is spreading nasty A girl you know is spreading nasty rumours about another girl. You re not sure if the rumours about another girl. You re not sure if the rumours are true, but you know they re hurtful and you rumours are true, but you know they re hurtful and you wouldn t want people talking about you like that. wouldn t want people talking about you like that.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why is she doing this? Are the rumours true? It s only doing this? Are the rumours true? It s only words I guess and this kind of thing happens words I guess and this kind of thing happens all the time ... But rumours can be really all the time ... But rumours can be really hurtful ... And if I don t get involved, am I hurtful ... And if I don t get involved, am I saying it s okay? ... If I confront the girl who s saying it s okay? ... If I confront the girl who s spreading the rumours, will it make it worse? spreading the rumours, will it make it worse? What if she starts talking about me next? What if she starts talking about me next? Is this any of my business? ... What should I Is this any of my business? ... What should I do? do? Why is she

Options (RUMOURS) Options (RUMOURS) 1. 1. Do nothing. It s none of your business. Do nothing. It s none of your business. - Official - 2. When you hear the rumour change the subject. 2. When you hear the rumour change the subject. 3. Talk to the girl who is the subject of the rumours. Let her know that you think it is 3. Talk to the girl who is the subject of the rumours. Let her know that you think it is wrong and offer support. wrong and offer support. 4. Talk to the girl who s spreading the rumours and tell her that you don t think what 4. Talk to the girl who s spreading the rumours and tell her that you don t think what she is doing is ok. she is doing is ok. 5. Share with your friends what you ve heard and discuss what to do together. 5. Share with your friends what you ve heard and discuss what to do together. 6. Talk about what happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an 6. Talk about what happened with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. 7. Personal option 7. Personal option

- Official - CORRIDOR.

- Official - CORRIDOR CORRIDOR - - You re in the corridor between You re in the corridor between classes. You see a couple you know arguing, then you classes. You see a couple you know arguing, then you see the boy push his girlfriend against the wall. see the boy push his girlfriend against the wall. Neither of them are close friends of yours but they are Neither of them are close friends of yours but they are in the same year. Nobody else is doing anything. in the same year. Nobody else is doing anything.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - What s going on? Why is he pushing her? Should I say on? Why is he pushing her? Should I say something? If nobody else is doing anything, something? If nobody else is doing anything, why should I? If I get involved he might turn why should I? If I get involved he might turn on me ... Am I ready for that?... Besides if he on me ... Am I ready for that?... Besides if he treats her like that and she stays with him is treats her like that and she stays with him is it any of my business? But if I don t do it any of my business? But if I don t do something am I saying it s okay for him to something am I saying it s okay for him to treat her like this? What should I do? treat her like this? What should I do? What s going

- Official - Options (CORRIDOR) Options (CORRIDOR) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 1. 1. Distract the couple somehow to defuse the situation. Distract the couple somehow to defuse the situation. 1. 1. Maybe shout something like Leave her alone and wait to make sure things have Maybe shout something like Leave her alone and wait to make sure things have calmed down. calmed down. 1. 1. Talk to the girl at some point to offer her support. Talk to the girl at some point to offer her support. 1. 1. Talk to the boy at some point about his behaviour. Talk to the boy at some point about his behaviour. 1. 1. Talk about this with a parent/carer, a teacher/adult you trust or an MVP Mentor, and Talk about this with a parent/carer, a teacher/adult you trust or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. ask their advice on what to do. 1. 1. Personal Option. Personal Option.

- Official - TEXT MESSAGES (SEND).

- Official - TEXT MESSAGES (SEND) TEXT MESSAGES (SEND) - - Your friend is constantly sending his girlfriend text messages; constantly sending his girlfriend text messages; asking her where she is, who she s with and what asking her where she is, who she s with and what she s doing. This isn t just friendly chat. You get the she s doing. This isn t just friendly chat. You get the feeling that he s obsessed and jealous and always feeling that he s obsessed and jealous and always needs to know her every move. needs to know her every move. Your friend is

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why is he Texting her so much? Then again, a lot of people text loads her so much? Then again, a lot of people text loads Is this a problem? Is she happy with it? Even so, Is this a problem? Is she happy with it? Even so, it doesn t seem right Is he trying to control her? it doesn t seem right Is he trying to control her? I know some girls who think that boys who are I know some girls who think that boys who are jealous must really love them a lot But is this jealous must really love them a lot But is this behaviour abusive? I m not sure it s any of my behaviour abusive? I m not sure it s any of my business. After all, I wouldn t want other people business. After all, I wouldn t want other people messing in my relationship What should I do? Why is he Texting messing in my relationship What should I do?

- Official - Options (TEXT SEND) Options (TEXT SEND) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 1. 1. Encourage your friend to do something else apart from texting. Encourage your friend to do something else apart from texting. 1. 1. Tell your friend that you re worried about what is going on, and that he needs to give his girlfriend Tell your friend that you re worried about what is going on, and that he needs to give his girlfriend some space. some space. 1. 1. Talk to a friend of hers and see whether they have any concerns or can offer her some support. Talk to a friend of hers and see whether they have any concerns or can offer her some support. 1. 1. Ask your other friends if they have noticed this too, and discuss what to do together. Ask your other friends if they have noticed this too, and discuss what to do together. 1. 1. Talk about your concerns with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and Talk about your concerns with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. ask their advice on what to do. 1. 1. Personal Option. Personal Option.

- Official - TEXT MESSAGES (RECEIVE).

- Official - TEXT MESSAGES (RECEIVE) TEXT MESSAGES (RECEIVE) - - Your friend constantly receives text messages from her boyfriend. constantly receives text messages from her boyfriend. He asks her where she is, who she s with and what He asks her where she is, who she s with and what she s doing. This isn t just friendly chat; you get the she s doing. This isn t just friendly chat; you get the feeling that he s obsessed and jealous, and always feeling that he s obsessed and jealous, and always needs to know her every move. needs to know her every move. Your friend

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why does he need to know what she s doing all the time? need to know what she s doing all the time? What is his problem is he trying to control her? What is his problem is he trying to control her? This can t be right Does she realise what he This can t be right Does she realise what he is doing? Maybe she thinks this is what love is is doing? Maybe she thinks this is what love is like I m not sure it is any of my business. After like I m not sure it is any of my business. After all, I wouldn t want other people messing with all, I wouldn t want other people messing with my relationships Then again, this doesn t seem my relationships Then again, this doesn t seem right ... But if I say something, she might fall out right ... But if I say something, she might fall out with me or think I m just jealous of her with me or think I m just jealous of her relationship What should I do? What should I do? Why does he relationship

- Official - Options Options (TEXT RECEIVE) (TEXT RECEIVE) 1. 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 1. 1. Encourage your friend to put her phone away, to take a break while you do something Encourage your friend to put her phone away, to take a break while you do something else. else. 1. 1. Tell your friend you re concerned about what s going on and let her know you re there Tell your friend you re concerned about what s going on and let her know you re there to support her. to support her. 1. 1. Tell her boyfriend to back off, or ask one of his friends to talk to him about it. Tell her boyfriend to back off, or ask one of his friends to talk to him about it. 1. 1. Share your worries with some mutual friends, and discuss what to do together. Share your worries with some mutual friends, and discuss what to do together. 1. 1. Talk with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their Talk with a parent/carer, a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP Mentor, and ask their advice on what to do. advice on what to do. 1. 1. Personal Option. Personal Option.

- Official - WORDS.

- Official - WORDS WORDS - - One of your classmates tells your friend One of your classmates tells your friend their new trainers are gay . This classmate always their new trainers are gay . This classmate always describes things they don t like as being gay. Your describes things they don t like as being gay. Your friend looks embarrassed. friend looks embarrassed.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - Why is my friend looking so upset? It s only a word friend looking so upset? It s only a word He doesn t mean he thinks my friend is gay. He doesn t mean he thinks my friend is gay. Or does he? Could he be gay? What does Or does he? Could he be gay? What does it matter? I can t control what everyone it matter? I can t control what everyone says and thinks but why does he use the says and thinks but why does he use the word gay in that way? Does he know what word gay in that way? Does he know what it means? If I say something will he, or it means? If I say something will he, or others, think I m overreacting or think I m others, think I m overreacting or think I m gay? What should I do? gay? What should I do? Why is my

- Official - Options (WORDS) Options (WORDS) 1. Do nothing. It's none of your business. 1. Quickly change the subject to take the attention off your friend. 1. Ask your friend if he s ok and let him know you didn t like what happened. 1. Let your classmate know you re not happy with what he said and that the word gay should not be used as an insult. 1. Start a discussion with your friends and see what their views are. 1. Talk about this with a teacher or adult you trust, or an MVP mentor, and ask if they can start a class/group discussion on this, and/or invite the local LGBT group in. 1. Personal Option.

- Official - PARTY .

- Official - Party Party - - You're at a party, and you see a friend of yours You're at a party, and you see a friend of yours trying to get a girl you know to go into a bedroom with trying to get a girl you know to go into a bedroom with him. She s drunk. She's not just tipsy, she's stumbling him. She s drunk. She's not just tipsy, she's stumbling over her own feet and seems reluctant. over her own feet and seems reluctant.

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT TRAIN OF THOUGHT - - She looks really drunk Has he been drinking? He s really drunk Has he been drinking? He s taking her to the bedroom. Is that what she taking her to the bedroom. Is that what she wants? It doesn t look like she s stopping wants? It doesn t look like she s stopping him If she s that drunk is she able to give her him If she s that drunk is she able to give her consent? My gut instincts tell me this isn t consent? My gut instincts tell me this isn t right. But what if I m overreacting? No one right. But what if I m overreacting? No one else is doing anything What should I do? else is doing anything What should I do? She looks

- Official - Options (PARTY) Options (PARTY) 1. Do nothing. It s none of your business. 2. Create a distraction to stop this going any further. 3. Stop the girl from going into the bedroom and make sure she is safe. 4. Approach your friend and tell him that you don t think what he s doing is ok. 5. Ask others at the party to help you to get them to go separate ways tonight. 6. Find the person who is having the party and ask them to help you. 7. Personal Option

- Official - WHAT DID I SEE?

- Official - WHAT DID I SEE? - Your friend has been getting bullied a bit lately. There has been a lot of name-calling which has also been happening over social media. Other people have been getting involved and joining in. Your friend has confided in you saying things are getting worse and they are sick of putting up with it. Others are talking about a big fight that is going to happen after school. At school, you notice what you think looks like a knife in your friend s bag

- Official - TRAIN OF THOUGHT - What did I see? Was it a knife? It looked like one ... Why would they think of bringing a knife to school? Should I tell someone about this? Will my friend get in trouble? ... What will people think of me if I speak to a teacher? Will I get called a grass? ... If I do nothing and someone gets hurt, how will I feel? ... Will I get in trouble? ... I m sure they d never use it, they re probably just protecting themselves. Then again they are my friend and I don t want them getting hurt or in trouble ... What should I do?

- Official - Options What Did I See? 1. Do nothing, its none of your business. 1. Find a way to get your friend away from the planned fight. 1. Talk with your friend and tell him what you saw. Tell him you want to help. 1. Talk with your friends and come up with a way to deal with this together. 1. Talk about this with a parent/carer, a teacher/adult you trust or MVP mentor. 1. Call the police/speak to school police officer 1. Personal Option.