The Mindset of Champions: Breeding Winners Mentality - ICAM 2021 Conference
Explore the champion mindset, understanding what it entails and how it shapes one's approach to life and success. Discover the essence of being a champion and how anyone can champion themselves by embracing positive qualities and striving for personal best. Delve into breeding a winners mentality through habits and lifestyle choices, aiming for mental greatness and fulfillment.
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The Mindset of Champions: The Mindset of Champions: Breeding the Winners Mentality Breeding the Winners Mentality ICAM 2021 Conference Sun N Sand Resort Saturday 18th September 2021 Dr. Chiwoza Bandawe
What is a Mind What is a Mind- -Set? Set? A way of looking at yourself, the world and the future in a fixed way that is hard to change A mental model, a picture, a deeply ingrained assumptions, thoughts about the world and yourself in it. Filing System Different responses to the same event
Who is a Champion? Who is a Champion? Champions aren t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them a desire, a dream, a vision . Muhammad Ali Doubt yourself? Start doubting your doubt!
Who Can be a Champion? Who Can be a Champion? Don t envy the champion be the champion. The same positive mental qualities you admire in others are also within you and waiting to be fully expressed Jim Afremow. If I can spot it, I ve got it! All people are more alike than different, so we re all capable of the mental greatness we see and appreciate in others
How do you champion yourself? How do you champion yourself? Not competitive Seek your fullest expression of your positive aspects and attributes and become like the champions you admire We are all champions until we lose to ourselves Striving for your own personal best The attitude with which we approach the situation can determine your success or failure. Peyton Manning.
Breeding the Winners Mentality Breeding the Winners Mentality Having a champion approach to life with the future pain and regret of knowing in your heart that you settled for less than your best. Will you continue to sacrifice what you most want to achieve in your game for what is comfortable in the moment? Jim Afremow Lifestyle Mindset that develops through habits 8 Habits that breed a Winners Mentality Various Sources
Outcome: Mental Wellbeing Mental well-being is characterised by continuing personal growth, a sense of purpose in life, self-acceptance and positive relations with others. The ability to examine oneself and consider change. Mentally healthy individual is one who is well adjusted to the complexities and demands of his or her environment. Mental wellbeing affects your relationships with others: quality of relationships
W Wi inners M nners Me entality Habit 1:Carpe Diem!!! ntality Habit 1:Carpe Diem!!! Win the day. This means you should take advantage of the opportunity that each day brings to be the best you can be. Excellence can be achieved only today not yesterday or tomorrow, because they do not exist in the present moment. Today is the only day you have to flex your talents and maximize your enjoyment. Your challenge is to win in all aspects of life. To reach that goal, you need to set yourself up for success by winning one day at a time.
Daily Victories Daily Victories Setting daily goals and striving to achieve them is how you reach the status of a champion. How are you getting better today? What will you achieve today? Schedule the right number of daily challenges. An unrealistic plan is a self- defeating plan. Undoable plans are disheartening, so schedule a reasonable number of tasks. I m trying to do the best I can. I m not concerned with tomorrow, but with what goes on today. Mark Spitz. Seven gold medals in an Olympic games
Eliminate Self Sabotage Eliminate Self Sabotage To perform at a champion s level, you must not sabotage self. What prevents you from winning today? External accolades are temporary and fleeting, internal championship is longlasting and empowering Its not about being competitive against others but competing with the previous version of yourself and making you better. Avoid distractions time-wasters e.g. excessive WhatsApp, social media, junk food, or excessive alcohol.
Winners Mentality Habit 2: Embrace Pain Winners Mentality Habit 2: Embrace Pain as a Building Tool as a Building Tool To be a champion is to remain focused even in the face of the challenges that are part of the life experience. To take the painful event and see it as a stepping stone to be a greater person rather than being knocked down by it is an example of a winners mentality. See the challenges of life as allies or friends, giving you feedback, having a purpose for your own evolving growth as a person
Learned helplessness Learned helplessness The more one is exposed to challenges, the more one is more likely to develop learned helplessness : an exhaustion, a state of giving up where one s strength and determination to overcome the challenge wears down with a type of mental fatigue
If you recognise that life offers challenges and that the challenges are part of the normal path of life, you will be better placed to ride through it. Pain is the necessary resistance needed for you to play the game of life; play on . Ishmael Tetteh
The Law of Pain The Law of Pain The challenge is a stepping stone, an opportunity to grow and learn, an apparent setback that is there for our own good and personal growth. Pain is an essential law of life; it must be experienced. Donkey story
Winners Mentality Habit 3: Learn from Winners Mentality Habit 3: Learn from Mistakes and Failures Mistakes and Failures Failure is very much a part of life and we should learn from it. Only he who does nothing makes no mistakes French Prov. Walking Any time you see a new improved version of a product, it means that the previous product was a mistake . Progress is made on the stepping stones of mistakes Ishmael Tetteh University of Life and failures and setbacks are part of the courses you have to take. You pass the exam by overcoming the situation through changing the way you look at it Question the failure:
Patrick King Questions Patrick King Questions How can I do this better? What am I missing that would make things easier? What did I learn that works? What is the difference between what works and what failed? Where exactly was the flaw and what else needs to be fixed or changed? How will I do things differently next time? What can I do here that has not been considered before? What assumptions were made and what needs to be reevaluated? What can you learn from this experience?
Unpacking Your Mistakes Unpacking Your Mistakes Mistakes are not failures. It was a failure when the mistake was not discovered; it ceased to be a failure when you discovered it was a mistake. Give attention to what the mistake is; what it is made up of and what factors led to it. Upcoming event often cast their shadows. You are able to see the patterns and the warning signs that a mistake is about to happen. Observe carefully how the mistake announced itself in advance but you did not pay attention to it. Then the mistakes are your springboard to greater success.
ABC of Handling Mistakes. Steve Goodier ABC of Handling Mistakes. Steve Goodier A [person] who never recognises his mistakes will never know peace . Guinean Proverb Acknowledge your error and accept responsibility for it. It is futile to blame other people or circumstances Be gentle with yourself. Life is not yet over. This is not the first mistake you ever made, nor will it be the last Goodier Correct it & Move on. The great virtue is the ability to correct mistakes and to continually reinvent oneself. Wang Yang-Ming. "Do not look where you fell, but where you slipped". Liberian Proverb
Ive missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan
Stuck in the past. Amy Morin Stuck in the past. Amy Morin Constantly full of regret about something you said or did in the past. You constantly press the rewind button. You find you are always imagining how life would have turned out if you had taken a different life course or taken up the offer you refused years ago. You feel convinced that you don't deserve to be happy and feel constant shame for things done in the past. Jail term Evolving person. Hindsight The only thing you should bring from the past into the present are the lessons you learn from the experiences of the past.
Two Types of Past Experiences Two Types of Past Experiences The first are experiences in the past over which a person had control. Secondly there are those experiences for which you had no control. Don t give power to the past and maintain its experience. This brings its shadow into your daily life. It holds you. Move on
Winners Mentality Habit 4: Embrace Winners Mentality Habit 4: Embrace Your Shadow Side Your Shadow Side Come to terms with our shadow, weaknesses and flaws. This can be very painful and very humbling. Often we project our shadow onto others and respond and react with hostility to them because we often unconsciously see those parts of ourselves that we do not accept about ourselves in others The champion mindset means that you should realise that you have a shadow within you and it is a part of you.
Y Yo our Shadow Side ur Shadow Side It is the totality of the weak, dark, unpleasant, ugly side of oneself. If we admit the dark side we are likely to see we are selfish. We are greedy. We are competitive. We are fearful. We are dependent. We are jealous. We are possessive. We have a destructive side . Ilyana Valzant
If you really want to know how you feel or think about yourself, then see how you treat others. our relationships with others are a reflection of our relationships with our inner selves. Champions do not fear self-examination. They see it as necessary for personal growth. We live constantly with contradictions within ourselves. There are feelings or things that we experience that are inconsistent with our public self or persona. Life seems to constantly give us opposites
Despite how open, peaceful and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves. This is the heart of clarity Matt Kahn
The Mirror Effect The Mirror Effect Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves . Psychologist Carl Jung
Winners Mentality Habit 5: Dont be a Winners Mentality Habit 5: Don t be a People Pleaser People Pleaser They know that their identity is not dependent on whether people are happy with them or not. They cannot please everyone Champions do not feel guilty whenever he or she says No to someone s request. Feeling responsible for the feelings of others. If you upset someone, you feel it is your responsibility to keep them happy and their feelings and emotions are dependent on you. People pleasers go to great lengths to avoid conflicts and are prepared to agree with what someone else is saying even though they may have a different opinion. We become actors to please or entertain others. Keeping in and silent one s hurt feelings can actually make things worse by leading to bitterness and resentment
E E Motion Motion Living things: Energy in motion Emotions Need to be expressed, not kept in e.g toilet. The particular emotion we feel in a given situation is determined by our appraisal of the event. Emotions seek validation and recognition
Winners Mentality Habit 6: Winners Mentality Habit 6: Be committed to Life Long Learning Be committed to Life Long Learning Champions are committed to growth The mind once streched, will never return to where it was before Develop a Growth Mindset (Carol Dweck): The intelligence, skill, and qualities you are born with are the foundation for development Growth mindset person believes that they can grow these abilities through learning and hard work Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it. Steve Maraboli
Self Care Self Care Seek to grow and experience more Be on top of your game, cutting edge Learn new skills, visit new places and make new friends. Good self-esteem helps you cope when life takes a difficult turn Be proud of who you are. Recognise and accept the things you may not be good at Laugh, Play, Rest, Sleep, Eat Well
Winners Mentality Habit 7: Release Winners Mentality Habit 7: Release yourself from the need to be understood yourself from the need to be understood Expectation to be understood keeps one in bondage. Life unpredictable People are complex summation of histories Each moment unfolding more of selves Greet as though for the first time Don t understand self fully, how can someone else understand you? Each sees you through lenses they wear Sun has no need to be understood Scorpion rescue
Winners Mentality Habit 8: Become a Winners Mentality Habit 8: Become a Critical Thinker Critical Thinker A critical thinker raises important questions and problems, formulating these questions in his or her thinking in a clear and precise way. A critical thinker gathers and assesses relevant information, does not just hear rumours and believe everything they are told without analysing it in detail or even questioning the source of the rumours or story they are hearing. Critical thinkers avoid thinking simplistically about complicated issues and strive to appropriately consider the rights and needs of relevant others.
Self Critical Thinking Self Critical Thinking Critical thinking involves considering the strengths and weaknesses of opposing points of view. 66,000 thoughts per day. Self Critical Thinking How true is this thought? What is the evidence for this thought? What is the evidence against this thought? Is the thought based on fact or feeling? Is it logical? Is it exaggerated? Is it healthy?; Is helpful? How else could one look at the situation?
Questions are the Answer Our self talk thoughts are mainly questions. What questions are you feeling your mind with? What am I grateful for in my life right now? What excites me in my life right now? What are my strengths? What are the key lessons in my life? How have I overcome previous life challenges? What are my stories of triumph?
Breeeding Breeeding the Winners Mentality the Winners Mentality Habit 1: Seize the Day! Habit 2: Embrace Pain as a Building Tool Habit 3: Learn from Past failures and Mistakes Habit 4: Embrace Your Shadow Side Habit 5: Don t be a People Pleaser Habit 6: Be committed to Life Long Learning Habit 7: Release Yourself from the Need to be Understood Habit 8: Become a Critical Thinker
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My Contact Details My Contact Details Dr. Chiwoza R. Bandawe Ph.D.; MA (Clin. Psych) CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST (Registration: MCM/CLINPSYCH/002) P.O Box 31038 Chichiri, BLANTYRE 3 Tel: Email: cbandawe@harmonymw.org 0888 200 222
