Middle School Parenting Tips: Understanding and Navigating Adolescence
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Nature of Middle School Student
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readolescent:
Common
Middle School Characteristics
*Forgetting
*One of the earliest signs of approaching adolescence!
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*Normal
*Mental Clutter/Pre-occupation/Stress
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*It isn’t purposeful
*Use creative reminders in lieu of nagging
EXAMPLES: Doorknobs, signs, mirrors, phones, bulletin boards,
backpacks, lunch boxes
*Encourage DAILY lists
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*Irritability
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Middle Schoolers often have episodes of
extreme irritability
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Built up energy
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Hormonal changes
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New stressors
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Tips for Parents:
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Arguing will almost always escalate the problem – wait them out!
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Listen to frustrations
without
prying or lecturing
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If you need to reprimand, focus on specific behaviors!
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Don’t let their mood ruin your mood – be a source of stability for them
*Power Plays
What is happening
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Inevitable
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Seeking independence
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Stemming from a sense of powerless
May include:
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Non-verbal tantrums
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Smarting off
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Manipulating siblings, parents, & friends
What can parents do:
Think ahead
Don’t give into manipulation
Disengage
Don’t use power unless it is urgent
*Friendships
What’s happening:
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Turbulent times
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Tend to drift away from each other
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Pick new friends
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Need to belong
Good Friendships:
Accept us as we are
Don’t needlessly criticize
Back us up when we’re right and pick us up when we are down
Guideline to make it through
:
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Expect to be left out
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Create an early and strict curfew
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Have a strong stance against unsupervised gatherings
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Parents work together
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Don’t be afraid to approach other parents and your school
*Chores
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Chores help kids learn responsibility
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Chores give kids a sense that their contributions are needed and
valued
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Tips for parents:
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Give very clear / specific directions
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Demonstrate chores first to ensure understanding
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Don’t demand perfection
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Praise, praise, praise
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Be consistent with expectations
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No deadlines – use the when / then technique
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Ex. “When the windows are clean, then you may watch TV.”
*Worries
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Need to belong
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Showing BRAVADO
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Withdrawal
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Consistency
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Reassurance
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Encourage outside activities/clubs/service projects
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Engage and connect
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LISTEN!
*Joys
Rules for Gaining Joy!!!!
Don’t take it personally
Continue to be a parent
Appreciate your child’s strengths
Take time when it is available
Talk with other parents
Keep in touch with the school
Internet Safety
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Students who use the internet for social networking are very likely to
be exposed to pornography, violence, and hate speech.
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If your child has access to social networking platforms (twitter,
instagram, vine, etc), please have
frequent
discussions
and
check-ups
with them about safe, appropriate use of these sites, including the
importance of:
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Making their account private or locked
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Only friending or following accounts of people they know in person
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Only accepting friend or follow requests from people they know in person
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Ignoring, blocking, and reporting vulgar or mean spirited material
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Ignoring, blocking, and reporting ANY ANONYMOUS accounts
Internet Safety
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Visit
www.netsmartz.org
for more information and tips on how to
help your children stay safe in the digital world.
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Safety apps exist like -
http://www.smartshepherd.com/
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Talk with your service provider to find one that will work with your child’s
phone.
**SFMS Counselors will be doing
“Coffee and Conversations”
with parents regarding Internet Safety
Internet Safety
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“It is not enough to sit by and assume that your kids are going to do
the right thing, because good kids, smart kids, that do the right things
in lots of aspects of life, still do goofy things on the internet and
social networking sites. Kids are going to post photos and personal
information. At least moms and dads should learn about what
they’re doing. If you don’t know that your child has a Facebook page
(Twitter, Instagram, Vine, etc.), you better find out, and you better
talk to them about how they are using it and what they are doing to
make sure that they use it safely and responsibly.”
-Ernie Allen,
President and CEO of the National Center
for Missing and Exploited
Children
Self-Advocacy
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Students in Middle School should be learning to ask questions or
seek resolution to their problems themselves.
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Parents can assist students by:
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Encouraging
them
to keep up with their assignments using ItsLearning!
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Helping them practice approaching and talking to teachers
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Following up with teachers to verify that the student came and talked to the
teacher
HELPFUL RESOURCES
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The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens
By Sean Covey
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Parenting Teens with Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood
By Foster Cline, Jim Fay
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Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
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By Hal Edward Runkel
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The Good Enough Teen: Raising Adolescents with Love and Acceptance (Despite How Impossible They Can Be)
By Brad E. Sachs
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The Overlooked Generation: Parenting Teens and Tweens in a Complicated Culture
By Shannon Perry
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Queen Bees and Wannabes
By Rosalind Wiseman
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Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope
By Rosalind Wiseman
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Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom in Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years
by Cheryl Dellasega
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Ophelia Speaks: Adolescent Girls Write About Their Search for Self
By Sara Shandler
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Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
By Mary Bray Pipher
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Teenage Boys!: Shaping the Man Inside : Surviving & Enjoying These Extraordinary Years
By William Beausay, Bill Beausay
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Why Boys Don’t Talk--and Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen
By Susan Morris Shaffer, Linda Perlman Gordon
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A Fine Young Man: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys Into Exceptional Men
By Michael Gurian
Panther Spirit… Get involved!
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Welcome to South Forsyth Middle School
and thank you for coming today!
Remember:
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The first day of school is Thursday, August 4th
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Attendance will be taken
promptly
at 9:00 a.m.
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Students who ride the bus are always on time
Middle school can be a challenging time for both students and parents. This content provides insights and tips for parents on understanding and navigating through the changes and challenges their adolescents face. From dealing with forgetfulness and irritability to handling power plays and navigating friendships, this guide offers valuable advice on supporting your middle schooler effectively.
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South Forsyth Middle School South Forsyth Middle School
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pl ayer_detailpage&v=tlyOSRTxglA
Nature of Middle School Student How to E Enjoy L Living with a P Preadolescent:
Common Middle School Characteristics
*Forgetting *One of the earliest signs of approaching adolescence! UNDERSTANDING UNDERSTANDING *Valid *Normal *Mental Clutter/Pre-occupation/Stress COPING COPING *It isn t purposeful *Use creative reminders in lieu of nagging EXAMPLES: Doorknobs, signs, mirrors, phones, bulletin boards, backpacks, lunch boxes *Encourage DAILY lists SUPPORT SUPPORT *Guide them gently *Help them don t nag them *Be prepared keep a supply stash on hand
http://www.christart.com/IMAGES-art9ab/clipart/2341/argument.pnghttp://www.christart.com/IMAGES-art9ab/clipart/2341/argument.png *Irritability Middle Schoolers often have episodes of extreme irritability Built up energy Hormonal changes New stressors Tips for Parents: Arguing will almost always escalate the problem wait them out! Listen to frustrations without prying or lecturing If you need to reprimand, focus on specific behaviors! Don t let their mood ruin your mood be a source of stability for them
*Power Plays What is happening: Inevitable Seeking independence Stemming from a sense of powerless May include: Non-verbal tantrums Smarting off Manipulating siblings, parents, & friends What can parents do: Think ahead Don t give into manipulation Disengage Don t use power unless it is urgent
*Friendships What s happening: Turbulent times Tend to drift away from each other Pick new friends Need to belong Good Friendships: Accept us as we are Don t needlessly criticize Back us up when we re right and pick us up when we are down Guideline to make it through: o Expect to be left out o Create an early and strict curfew o Have a strong stance against unsupervised gatherings o Parents work together o Don t be afraid to approach other parents and your school
*Chores Chores help kids learn responsibility Chores give kids a sense that their contributions are needed and valued Tips for parents: Give very clear / specific directions Demonstrate chores first to ensure understanding Don t demand perfection Praise, praise, praise Be consistent with expectations No deadlines use the when / then technique Ex. When the windows are clean, then you may watch TV. https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQLVQ_Kb5leaZIvMXD8dn00QgGlE-sHtIci2NAQDtcD2zWcSukfDiDFakPt
*Worries Worries manifest in different ways. Worries manifest in different ways. Need to belong Showing BRAVADO Withdrawal Be their SAFE HAVEN! Be their SAFE HAVEN! Consistency Stability/Security Reassurance VALIDATION! RE RE- -DIRECT DIRECT Encourage outside activities/clubs/service projects Engage and connect LISTEN!
*Joys Rules for Gaining Joy!!!! https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRKSx0F1pcSOcsdLv7zs9dNCYY-KPTeOITNZpcoBmwB0gW5KLuy Don t take it personally Continue to be a parent Appreciate your child s strengths Take time when it is available Talk with other parents Keep in touch with the school
Internet Safety Students who use the internet for social networking are very likely to be exposed to pornography, violence, and hate speech. If your child has access to social networking platforms (twitter, instagram, vine, etc), please have frequent discussions and check-ups with them about safe, appropriate use of these sites, including the importance of: Making their account private or locked Only friending or following accounts of people they know in person Only accepting friend or follow requests from people they know in person Ignoring, blocking, and reporting vulgar or mean spirited material Ignoring, blocking, and reporting ANY ANONYMOUS accounts
Internet Safety Visit www.netsmartz.org for more information and tips on how to help your children stay safe in the digital world. Safety apps exist like - http://www.smartshepherd.com/ Talk with your service provider to find one that will work with your child s phone. **SFMS Counselors will be doing Coffee and Conversations with parents regarding Internet Safety
Internet Safety It is not enough to sit by and assume that your kids are going to do the right thing, because good kids, smart kids, that do the right things in lots of aspects of life, still do goofy things on the internet and social networking sites. Kids are going to post photos and personal information. At least moms and dads should learn about what they re doing. If you don t know that your child has a Facebook page (Twitter, Instagram, Vine, etc.), you better find out, and you better talk to them about how they are using it and what they are doing to make sure that they use it safely and responsibly. -Ernie Allen, President and CEO of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
Self-Advocacy Students in Middle School should be learning to ask questions or seek resolution to their problems themselves. Parents can assist students by: Encouraging them to keep up with their assignments using ItsLearning! Helping them practice approaching and talking to teachers Following up with teachers to verify that the student came and talked to the teacher
HELPFUL RESOURCES The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens By Sean Covey Parenting Teens with Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood By Foster Cline, Jim Fay Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool By Hal Edward Runkel The Good Enough Teen: Raising Adolescents with Love and Acceptance (Despite How Impossible They Can Be) By Brad E. Sachs The Overlooked Generation: Parenting Teens and Tweens in a Complicated Culture By Shannon Perry Queen Bees and Wannabes By Rosalind Wiseman Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope By Rosalind Wiseman Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom in Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years by Cheryl Dellasega Ophelia Speaks: Adolescent Girls Write About Their Search for Self By Sara Shandler Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls By Mary Bray Pipher Teenage Boys!: Shaping the Man Inside : Surviving & Enjoying These Extraordinary Years By William Beausay, Bill Beausay Why Boys Don t Talk--and Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen By Susan Morris Shaffer, Linda Perlman Gordon A Fine Young Man: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys Into Exceptional Men By Michael Gurian
http://welcomingmichigan.org/sites/default/files/styles/flexslider_full/public/03_A_02_TeenHands.jpg?itok=7KilX27qhttp://welcomingmichigan.org/sites/default/files/styles/flexslider_full/public/03_A_02_TeenHands.jpg?itok=7KilX27q Panther Spirit Get involved! Clubs Intramurals in the mornings Dances Athletic events (Only 7thand 8thmay compete) Check the calendar frequently for dates!
Welcome to South Forsyth Middle School and thank you for coming today! Remember: The first day of school is Thursday, August 4th Attendance will be taken promptly at 9:00 a.m. Students who ride the bus are always on time
