The Importance of Marriage in the Father's Plan
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An elderly couple had
dinner at another
couple's house, and
after eating, the wives
left the table and went
into the kitchen.
The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, "Last night we
went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. You
ought to try it.“
The other man said, "What is the name of the restaurant?“
The first man thought and thought and finally said, "What is the
name of that flower you give to someone you love?
You know ... The one that's red and has thorns.“
"Do you mean a rose?“
"Yes, that's the one," replied the man. He then turned towards
the kitchen and yelled, "Rose, what's the name of that
restaurant we went to last night?"
"We are concerned over
the mounting number
of divorces not only in
our society, but in the
Church.
We are just as
concerned with those
whose families and
marriages seem to be
held together in 'quiet
desperation.‘
The Privilege of Holding the Priesthood," in
Priesthood
(Salt Lake City:
Deseret Book Company, 1981), 4-5.
3
Converted
Children
Converted
Marriages
Converted
Individuals
We frequently speak about and
highlight marriage as a
fundamental unit of society, as
the foundation of a strong
nation, and as a vital
sociological and cultural
institution.
But the restored gospel helps us
to understand that it is so
much more!
Do we perhaps talk about
marriage without adequately
teaching the importance of
marriage in the Father’s plan?
Emphasizing marriage without
linking it to the simple and
fundamental doctrine of the
plan of happiness cannot
provide sufficient direction,
protection, or hope in a world
that grows increasingly
confused and wicked.
Worldwide training, LDS.org
Alma 12: 31,32
I Cor 1:9,10
Equally Yoked?
Marriage is not
a contract,
It is a covenant
The Lord
Husband
Wife
It is not uncommon for a family to
come in to see me that has a strong,
hard-working, psychologically
minded woman at its heart and a
weak or abusive or disengaged
husband at its periphery.
Nearly always they are having trouble
with one or more of the children. It
is perfectly clear (at least to me and
to the wife) that one of the problems
is that the father is not playing his
part well.
The temptation, of course, is to
become the substitute patriarch in
this family, joining with the wife in
setting the family's affairs in order.
In such a plan, the father is either
ignored or treated as one of the
children who has to be reeducated
on how to behave in the family
circle…
Carlfred Broderick,
One Flesh, One Heart: Putting Celestial Love
into Your Temple Marriage
( 1986)
Women, by their
nature, are more
attuned to spiritual
issues.
Spiritual issues are
“family focused”
Men are more likely to
confuse “emotion”
with “the Spirit”
Proverbs 8
1. BE ABUSIVE
2. BE DEFENSIVE
3. BE CRITICAL
4. BE RIGHT-Always
5. BE SELFISH
6. BE DISHONEST
7. BE UNFAITHFUL
8. BE SUPERIOR
9. BE CONTROLLING
10. BE CERTAIN
Morton C. Orman, M.D.
Ogden Nash
To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong admit it,
Whenever you're right, shut up!
Sisters, I testify that when
you stand in front of your
heavenly parents in those
royal courts on high and
you look into Her eyes
and behold Her
countenance,
any question you ever had
about the role of women
in the kingdom will
evaporate into the rich
celestial air,
because at that moment
you will see standing
directly in front of you,
your divine nature and
destiny.“
BYU Devotional, March 2010
Sister Holland and I were married about
the time both of us were reading poems
like that in BYU classrooms. We were as
starstruck—and as fearful—as most of you
are at these ages and stages of life. We had
absolutely no money. Zero. For a variety of
reasons, neither of our families was able to help finance our education. We
had a small apartment just south of campus—the smallest we could find:
two rooms and a half bath. We were both working too many hours trying to
stay afloat financially, but we had no other choice.
I remember one fall day—I think it was in the first semester after our marriage
in 1963—we were walking together up the hill past the Maeser Building on
the sidewalk that led between the President’s Home and the Brimhall
Building. Somewhere on that path we stopped and wondered what we had
gotten ourselves into. Life that day seemed so overwhelming, and the
undergraduate plus graduate years that we still anticipated before us
seemed monumental, nearly insurmountable. Our love for each other and
our commitment to the gospel were strong, but most of all the other
temporal things around us seemed particularly ominous.
On a spot that I could probably still mark for you today, I turned to Pat and
said something like this: “Honey, should we give up? I can get a good job
and carve out a good living for us. I can do some things. I’ll be okay
without a degree. Should we stop trying to tackle what right now seems so
difficult to face?”
In my best reenactment of Lot’s
wife, I said, in effect, “Let’s go back.
Let’s go home. The future holds
nothing for us.”
Then my beloved little bride did
what she has done for 45 years
since then. She grabbed me by the
lapels and said, “We are not going
back. We are not going home. The
future holds
everything
for us.”
She stood there in the sunlight that day and gave me a real talk. I
don’t recall that she quoted Paul, but there was certainly plenty
in her voice that said she was committed to setting aside all that
was past in order to “press toward the mark” and seize the prize
of God that lay yet ahead. It was a living demonstration of faith.
It was “the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things
not seen” (Hebrews 11:1).
So we laughed, kept walking, and finished up sharing a root
beer—one glass, two straws—at the then newly constructed
Wilkinson Center.
BYU Devotional, “Remember Lot’s Wife” 2009
In a world where divorce rates are rising, it's vital to emphasize the significance of marriage within the Father's plan. The restored gospel teaches us that marriage is not just a societal institution but a fundamental part of the plan of happiness. Without connecting marriage to this doctrine, we lack direction, protection, and hope in a world filled with confusion and wickedness. This content explores the deeper meaning of marriage beyond societal norms and highlights its role in the eternal perspective.
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An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen. An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen. The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, "Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. You ought to try it. The other man said, "What is the name of the restaurant? The first man thought and thought and finally said, "What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love? You know ... The one that's red and has thorns. "Do you mean a rose? "Yes, that's the one," replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, "Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?" The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, "Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. You ought to try it. The other man said, "What is the name of the restaurant? The first man thought and thought and finally said, "What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love? You know ... The one that's red and has thorns. "Do you mean a rose? "Yes, that's the one," replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, "Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?"
"We are concerned over the mounting number of divorces not only in our society, but in the Church. We are just as concerned with those whose families and marriages seem to be held together in 'quiet desperation. The Privilege of Holding the Priesthood," in Priesthood (Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Company, 1981), 4-5. 3
Converted Converted Children Children Converted Converted Marriages Marriages Converted Converted Individuals Individuals
We frequently speak about and highlight marriage as a fundamental unit of society, as the foundation of a strong nation, and as a vital sociological and cultural institution. But the restored gospel helps us to understand that it is so much more! Do we perhaps talk about marriage without adequately teaching the importance of marriage in the Father s plan? Emphasizing marriage without linking it to the simple and fundamental doctrine of the plan of happiness cannot provide sufficient direction, protection, or hope in a world that grows increasingly confused and wicked. Worldwide training, LDS.org
Alma 12: 31,32 Alma 12: 31,32
I I Cor Equally Yoked? Marriage is not a contract, It is a covenant Cor 1:9,10 Equally Yoked? Marriage is not a contract, It is a covenant 1:9,10
The Lord The Lord Wife Wife Husband Husband
It is not uncommon for a family to come in to see me that has a strong, hard-working, psychologically minded woman at its heart and a weak or abusive or disengaged husband at its periphery. Nearly always they are having trouble with one or more of the children. It is perfectly clear (at least to me and to the wife) that one of the problems is that the father is not playing his part well. The temptation, of course, is to become the substitute patriarch in this family, joining with the wife in setting the family's affairs in order. In such a plan, the father is either ignored or treated as one of the children who has to be reeducated on how to behave in the family circle into Your Temple Marriage ( 1986) Carlfred Broderick, One Flesh, One Heart: Putting Celestial Love
Women, by their nature, are more attuned to spiritual issues. Spiritual issues are family focused Men are more likely to confuse emotion with the Spirit
Proverbs 8 Proverbs 8
1. BE ABUSIVE 2. BE DEFENSIVE 3. BE CRITICAL 4. BE RIGHT 5. BE SELFISH 6. BE DISHONEST 7. BE UNFAITHFUL 8. BE SUPERIOR 9. BE CONTROLLING 10. BE CERTAIN 1. BE ABUSIVE 2. BE DEFENSIVE 3. BE CRITICAL 4. BE RIGHT- -Always 5. BE SELFISH 6. BE DISHONEST 7. BE UNFAITHFUL 8. BE SUPERIOR 9. BE CONTROLLING 10. BE CERTAIN Morton C. Ogden Nash To keep your marriage brimming With love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong admit it, Whenever you're right, shut up! Ogden Nash To keep your marriage brimming With love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong admit it, Whenever you're right, shut up! Always Morton C. Orman Orman, M.D. , M.D.
Sisters, I testify that when you stand in front of your heavenly parents in those royal courts on high and you look into Her eyes and behold Her countenance, any question you ever had about the role of women in the kingdom will evaporate into the rich celestial air, because at that moment you will see standing directly in front of you, your divine nature and destiny. BYU Devotional, March 2010
reasons, neither of our families was able to help finance our education. We had a small apartment just south of campus the smallest we could find: two rooms and a half bath. We were both working too many hours trying to stay afloat financially, but we had no other choice. I remember one fall day I think it was in the first semester after our marriage in 1963 we were walking together up the hill past the Maeser Building on the sidewalk that led between the President s Home and the Brimhall Building. Somewhere on that path we stopped and wondered what we had gotten ourselves into. Life that day seemed so overwhelming, and the undergraduate plus graduate years that we still anticipated before us seemed monumental, nearly insurmountable. Our love for each other and our commitment to the gospel were strong, but most of all the other temporal things around us seemed particularly ominous. On a spot that I could probably still mark for you today, I turned to Pat and said something like this: Honey, should we give up? I can get a good job and carve out a good living for us. I can do some things. I ll be okay without a degree. Should we stop trying to tackle what right now seems so difficult to face? Sister Holland and I were married about the time both of us were reading poems like that in BYU classrooms. We were as starstruck and as fearful as most of you are at these ages and stages of life. We had absolutely no money. Zero. For a variety of
In my best reenactment of Lots wife, I said, in effect, Let s go back. Let s go home. The future holds nothing for us. Then my beloved little bride did what she has done for 45 years since then. She grabbed me by the lapels and said, We are not going back. We are not going home. The future holds everything for us. She stood there in the sunlight that day and gave me a real talk. I don t recall that she quoted Paul, but there was certainly plenty in her voice that said she was committed to setting aside all that was past in order to press toward the mark and seize the prize of God that lay yet ahead. It was a living demonstration of faith. It was the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1). So we laughed, kept walking, and finished up sharing a root beer one glass, two straws at the then newly constructed Wilkinson Center. BYU Devotional, Remember Lot s Wife 2009
