Narcissistic Abuse: The Insidious Manipulation of Victims
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R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Journey, LLC. Presents
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
:
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
What is Narcissistic Abuse?
Form of severe psychological and emotional abuse.
•
It is invisible;
•
Assault on the spirit, identify psyche of the victim;
•
Abuse by lying, manipulating, denying reality, controlling victim.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)-
Mental disorder in which people have an
inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and lack of
empathy for other.
Narcissist vs. Empath
Narcissist
-Individual who has an
excessive sense of self-
importance and lack of empathy
for others.
•
In an unhealthy relationship,
desires the need to dominate
and control others who can
validate their existence.
•
1-6% of the population suffer
from narcissistic personality
disorder; 1 in 25 ppl are
sociopaths (equal to
antisocial personality
disorder).
•
Cause is unknown but early
life experiences such as
insensitive parenting, thought
to play a role in the
development of the disorder.
Empath-
Individual with
heightened sensitivity to feelings
and emotions. They can often
“feel” what others are feeling.
•
In an unhealthy relationship,
often becomes isolated from
friends and family, constantly
“walking on eggshells”, and
always in a state of confusion.
•
About 15-20% of the
population are identified highly
sensitive and another 2-3% are
identified as empaths.
•
Factors that increase your
chances of being an empath:
temperament, genetics,
trauma, supportive parenting.
Common Terms
Hoovering-
The period when the abuser tries to “suck” victim back into relationship after the
victim has shown signs of concern/displeasure and wants to break away. The follow
behaviors maybe present during this time:
►
Love Bombing-
The period during which the victim is targeted and worked into a
relationship with abuser quickly and to erase bad behavior. The abuser
studies/seduces/charm you to have you remove any walls you may have up to protect
feelings so that they can get into personal/private space quickly. Will do things such as
engage in excessive and constant calls/texts/emails throughout the day to make you feel
wanted and important but is really to gage control and your willingness to allow them to
overstep boundaries.
•
Extravagant gifts/flowers
•
Sending random declarations of
undying “love”
•
Uses friends/family to get to you
•
Promises of changed behavior
•
Threats of suicide
•
Baits you with drama to get a
response/faking the need for “help”
Common Terms
►
Gaslighting-
The abuser attempts to distort the victims reality through ignoring evidence,
denying manipulative behaviors, diverting conversation, and ultimately brainwashing the
victim through manipulation. The victim will suffer from some of the following things:
Deflection/Projection/Scapegoating-
The abuser uses manipulation and triangulation to
change the subject or accuse you of things that they have actually done, as if to take the
pressure off of themselves. Abuser may do things such as go into a rage just to avoid taking
any responsibility.
•
Constantly questioning themselves
•
Being very sensitive
•
Easily getting confused
•
Struggling to make decisions
•
Constantly apologizing
•
Thinking they do everything wrong
•
Thinking they aren’t good enough
•
Feeling like they are making bad choices
•
Isolating themselves
•
Being unhappy for no reason
•
Creating excuses for abuser
•
Losing confidence
Common Terms
►
Reactive Abuse-
Toxic person
intentionally
abuses someone and victim responds with
anger or another normal reaction. Then, toxic abuser accuses victim of being abusive.
►
B.A.I.T.
•
B
ring it up- embarrassing or traumatic issues from past
•
A
ntagonize- provoke you using emotional/verbal or physical abuse to anger you
•
I
nvent- false story about you
•
T
riangulate- bring opinions of others
Once “baited” and you react- Narc will use your reaction as proof the problem lies
with you
Differences between Narcissistic Abuse &
Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse:
Abuse of Mental Process
•
Punish to show who is the boss
•
Trains victims on how to behave
•
Vindictiveness/Toxic amnesia
•
Triangulation
•
Likes to gain sympathy
•
Impossible arguments-blame
shifting
•
Results in partner feel irrational
and over emotional
•
Put blame on someone else,
doesn’t take accountability
Emotional Abuse:
Abuse of Emotions
•
Results in partner feeling
anxiety, chronic depression,
•
Having poor self-esteem
and PTSD
•
Exhibits dominating
behaviors- such as bullying,
mind games, humiliation,
minimizing, controlling,
intimidation .
•
Often product of threats
made/carried out and
emotional black mail
•
Silent Treatment
•
Neglect
•
Isolation
•
Devaluing
•
Name Calling
Preventing Escalation With A Narcissist
Do
•
Set boundaries,
•
Isolate yourself from them,
•
Accept personal responsibilities for your
circumstances to gain the power to
change it,
•
Say no without guilt,
•
Pay attention to how you talk to
yourself,
•
Educate yourself,
•
Practice self care.
Don’t
•
Contact them or Respond to them,
•
Engage in arguments or give them any
extra attention,
•
Try to reason with them,
•
Be co-dependent,
•
Try to control them,
•
Make assumptions/ snap judgements,
•
Keep secrets,
•
Take responsibility or blame.
Stages of Grief:
“Normal” vs Psychopathic Relationship
Stages of Grief: Process in a “
Normal
”
Relationship
1.
Denial
2.
Anger
3.
Bargaining
4.
Depression
5.
Acceptance
6.
Healing
Stages of Grief: Process in a Psychopathic
Relationship
1.
Total Devastation
2.
Denial
3.
Education/Self doubt
4.
Understanding the Psychopath
5.
Rage
6.
Depression
7.
Healing
VS.
Stages Of Grief For Victims Who Escape
Psychopathic Relationships
Stage 1- Total Devastation:
Shock and disbelief,
Feeling empty, difficulty performing trivial tasks,
Psychologically vulnerable.
Stage 2- Denial:
See abuser living “happy” and feeling like you have to prove you are also happy so they can want you back,
Impulsive, harboring delusional thoughts, trying to duplicate certain dynamics with a new person.
Stage 3- Education & Self Doubt
Come across terms of psychopathy, narcissism, sociopathy and read up on it identifying with many of the red flags,
Experience self-doubt and self-blame.
Stage 4- Understanding the Psychopath
Important in recovery,
Can put the behaviors in perspective and see why they did what they did.
Stages Of Grief For Victims Who
Escape Psychopathic Relationships
Stage 5- Rage and Depression
Yo-yo between the two; there will be good days vs. bad days,
Obsessive racing thoughts and talk about it all the time to anyone willing to listen,
Realize what you lost,
Trust issues developed,
Want to tell everyone about what abuser did.
Stage 6- Healing
Asking questions such as “Why did it happen?”, “What are my weaknesses/triggers?”,
Thinking how to do things differently, rethinking was you were exploited or red flags you ignored.
Stage 7- Self Discovery
Discover strengths, re-identify previous weaknesses,
Gain self-respect and confidence.
Sources
Brown, Sandra L. “The Damage They Do.” Your Recovery Starts Here. N.p., 03 Dec. 2016
Bonchay, B (2015). A Subtle Warning sign of A Toxic Person. Free from Toxic, June 4.
https://freefromtoxic.com/2015/06/04/the-early-warning-sign-of-a-toxic-person-you-never-
hear-about/
Swithin, T (2013). The Narcissism Epidemic: The Red Flags. Huffington Post, 9 May.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tina-swithin/the-narcissism-epidemic_b_3238674.html
Additional Websites:
World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (
https://wnaad.com/
)
Narcissist Abuse Support (
https://narcissistabusesupport.com
)
Psychopath Free (
https://psychopathfree.com/
)
https://drjudithorloff.com/4-reasons-why-people-become-empaths-from-trauma-to-genetics/
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About The Presenter
Janessa Rivera
Email:
the.rebirth.journey@gmail.com
Website:
https://riveraj5.wixsite.com/rebirthjourneyllc/bio
Instagram:
@rebirth_journey
Facebook:
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Narcissistic abuse is a form of severe psychological and emotional manipulation that targets a victim's spirit and identity. The abuser employs tactics such as lying, manipulation, denial of reality, and control. This abuse is often invisible and devastating, characterized by a lack of empathy and a need for admiration on the part of the narcissistic individual. Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, recognizing the traits of a narcissist versus an empath, and familiarizing oneself with common terms such as love bombing, hoovering, gaslighting, and deflection is crucial for identifying and breaking free from these toxic relationships.
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R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Journey, LLC. Presents DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
What is Narcissistic Abuse? Form of severe psychological and emotional abuse. It is invisible; Assault on the spirit, identify psyche of the victim; Abuse by lying, manipulating, denying reality, controlling victim. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)- Mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and lack of empathy for other.
Narcissist vs. Empath Narcissist-Individual who has an excessive sense of self- importance and lack of empathy for others. In an unhealthy relationship, desires the need to dominate and control others who can validate their existence. 1-6% of the population suffer from narcissistic personality disorder; 1 in 25 ppl are sociopaths (equal to antisocial personality disorder). Cause is unknown but early life experiences such as insensitive parenting, thought to play a role in the development of the disorder. Empath- Individual with heightened sensitivity to feelings and emotions. They can often feel what others are feeling. In an unhealthy relationship, often becomes isolated from friends and family, constantly walking on eggshells , and always in a state of confusion. About 15-20% of the population are identified highly sensitive and another 2-3% are identified as empaths. Factors that increase your chances of being an empath: temperament, genetics, trauma, supportive parenting.
Common Terms Love Bombing- The period during which the victim is targeted and worked into a relationship with abuser quickly and to erase bad behavior. The abuser studies/seduces/charm you to have you remove any walls you may have up to protect feelings so that they can get into personal/private space quickly. Will do things such as engage in excessive and constant calls/texts/emails throughout the day to make you feel wanted and important but is really to gage control and your willingness to allow them to overstep boundaries. Hoovering- The period when the abuser tries to suck victim back into relationship after the victim has shown signs of concern/displeasure and wants to break away. The follow behaviors maybe present during this time: Extravagant gifts/flowers Sending random declarations of undying love Uses friends/family to get to you Promises of changed behavior Threats of suicide Baits you with drama to get a response/faking the need for help
Common Terms Deflection/Projection/Scapegoating- The abuser uses manipulation and triangulation to change the subject or accuse you of things that they have actually done, as if to take the pressure off of themselves. Abuser may do things such as go into a rage just to avoid taking any responsibility. Gaslighting- The abuser attempts to distort the victims reality through ignoring evidence, denying manipulative behaviors, diverting conversation, and ultimately brainwashing the victim through manipulation. The victim will suffer from some of the following things: Constantly questioning themselves Being very sensitive Easily getting confused Struggling to make decisions Constantly apologizing Thinking they do everything wrong Thinking they aren t good enough Feeling like they are making bad choices Isolating themselves Being unhappy for no reason Creating excuses for abuser Losing confidence
Common Terms B.A.I.T. Once baited and you react- Narc will use your reaction as proof the problem lies with you Bring it up- embarrassing or traumatic issues from past Antagonize- provoke you using emotional/verbal or physical abuse to anger you Invent- false story about you Triangulate- bring opinions of others Reactive Abuse- Toxic person intentionally abuses someone and victim responds with anger or another normal reaction. Then, toxic abuser accuses victim of being abusive.
Differences between Narcissistic Abuse & Emotional Abuse Narcissistic Abuse: Abuse of Mental Process Emotional Abuse: Abuse of Emotions Results in partner feeling anxiety, chronic depression, Punish to show who is the boss Trains victims on how to behave Vindictiveness/Toxic amnesia Triangulation Likes to gain sympathy Impossible arguments-blame shifting Results in partner feel irrational and over emotional Put blame on someone else, doesn t take accountability Having poor self-esteem and PTSD Silent Treatment Neglect Isolation Devaluing Name Calling Exhibits dominating behaviors- such as bullying, mind games, humiliation, minimizing, controlling, intimidation . Often product of threats made/carried out and emotional black mail
Preventing Escalation With A Narcissist Do Don t Set boundaries, Contact them or Respond to them, Isolate yourself from them, Engage in arguments or give them any extra attention, Accept personal responsibilities for your circumstances to gain the power to change it, Try to reason with them, Be co-dependent, Say no without guilt, Try to control them, Pay attention to how you talk to yourself, Make assumptions/ snap judgements, Keep secrets, Educate yourself, Take responsibility or blame. Practice self care.
Stages of Grief: Normal vs Psychopathic Relationship Stages of Grief: Process in a Normal Relationship Stages of Grief: Process in a Psychopathic Relationship 1. Denial 1. Total Devastation 2. Anger 2. Denial VS. 3. Bargaining 3. Education/Self doubt 4. Depression 4. Understanding the Psychopath 5. Acceptance 5. Rage 6. Healing 6. Depression 7. Healing
Stages Of Grief For Victims Who Escape Psychopathic Relationships Stage 1- Total Devastation: Shock and disbelief, Feeling empty, difficulty performing trivial tasks, Psychologically vulnerable. Stage 2- Denial: See abuser living happy and feeling like you have to prove you are also happy so they can want you back, Impulsive, harboring delusional thoughts, trying to duplicate certain dynamics with a new person. Stage 3- Education & Self Doubt Come across terms of psychopathy, narcissism, sociopathy and read up on it identifying with many of the red flags, Experience self-doubt and self-blame. Stage 4- Understanding the Psychopath Important in recovery, Can put the behaviors in perspective and see why they did what they did.
Stages Of Grief For Victims Who Escape Psychopathic Relationships Stage 5- Rage and Depression Yo-yo between the two; there will be good days vs. bad days, Obsessive racing thoughts and talk about it all the time to anyone willing to listen, Realize what you lost, Trust issues developed, Want to tell everyone about what abuser did. Stage 6- Healing Asking questions such as Why did it happen? , What are my weaknesses/triggers? , Thinking how to do things differently, rethinking was you were exploited or red flags you ignored. Stage 7- Self Discovery Discover strengths, re-identify previous weaknesses, Gain self-respect and confidence.
Sources Brown, Sandra L. The Damage They Do. Your Recovery Starts Here. N.p., 03 Dec. 2016 Bonchay, B (2015). A Subtle Warning sign of A Toxic Person. Free from Toxic, June 4. https://freefromtoxic.com/2015/06/04/the-early-warning-sign-of-a-toxic-person-you-never- hear-about/ Swithin, T (2013). The Narcissism Epidemic: The Red Flags. Huffington Post, 9 May. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tina-swithin/the-narcissism-epidemic_b_3238674.html Additional Websites: World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (https://wnaad.com/) Narcissist Abuse Support (https://narcissistabusesupport.com) Psychopath Free (https://psychopathfree.com/) https://drjudithorloff.com/4-reasons-why-people-become-empaths-from-trauma-to-genetics/
About The Presenter Janessa Rivera Email: the.rebirth.journey@gmail.com Website: https://riveraj5.wixsite.com/rebirthjourneyllc/bio Instagram: @rebirth_journey Facebook: The Rebirth Journey
